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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 747084" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have strong feelings about this so I will post on the forum regarding no contact, never a happy option.</p><p></p><p>No contact (as in no way for them to communicate with me and my stubborn refusal to ever check their internet posts) has stopped me from thinking about those who once hurt me, who were most of my family of origin members. Only they...nobody else.... were abusive to heinous to me. The hurt was strong...I had to leave the memories of most who passed and who still live. Nobody else has ever treated me as horribly as them and as insignificant (shudder). My family of choice begged me to go completely no contact. I did after my dear father passed and it is for the rest of this lifetime. I love my true family of heart soooo much. I wish I had listened to them years ago.</p><p></p><p> So for me it has been good and removed those old memories from my mind most of the time. But only you can decide what you will tolerate. A child....I think I would go low contact. But it would be much harder. However if anyone, even an adult child, is so abusive to you that you can no longer bear it in your heart and soul a no contact of any length is not immoral to consider. If any of my kids had treated me as worthless and badly as a few of my family of origin members did, the day may have come when I had to consider it. That deep sort of hatred is not really having a relationship anyway. Do only what you can stand to do. No less. No more. It is different for us all.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 747084, member: 1550"] I have strong feelings about this so I will post on the forum regarding no contact, never a happy option. No contact (as in no way for them to communicate with me and my stubborn refusal to ever check their internet posts) has stopped me from thinking about those who once hurt me, who were most of my family of origin members. Only they...nobody else.... were abusive to heinous to me. The hurt was strong...I had to leave the memories of most who passed and who still live. Nobody else has ever treated me as horribly as them and as insignificant (shudder). My family of choice begged me to go completely no contact. I did after my dear father passed and it is for the rest of this lifetime. I love my true family of heart soooo much. I wish I had listened to them years ago. So for me it has been good and removed those old memories from my mind most of the time. But only you can decide what you will tolerate. A child....I think I would go low contact. But it would be much harder. However if anyone, even an adult child, is so abusive to you that you can no longer bear it in your heart and soul a no contact of any length is not immoral to consider. If any of my kids had treated me as worthless and badly as a few of my family of origin members did, the day may have come when I had to consider it. That deep sort of hatred is not really having a relationship anyway. Do only what you can stand to do. No less. No more. It is different for us all. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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