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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 747235" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Ladies</p><p></p><p>Just a few comments. </p><p></p><p>I always struggled being between my husband and my son (it is our son together). It was like being in a vortex. Horrible. </p><p></p><p>The way that I dealt with this was to remember that even in the Bible it says that your husband/spouse comes first. That is what helped guide me. That is how it is intended - husband comes first.</p><p></p><p>Our son used to get between us terribly. Before he came to live with us this last time (after 13 month faith based program and before that living out of state in sober living and screwing up a LOT) I told him to RESPECT our marriage. I don't think he ever did that before but he was very young so the concept probably wasn't really something he could grasp.</p><p></p><p>He does respect our marriage and privacy now thankfully.</p><p></p><p>As for going no contact, try to be gentle with yourselves mommas! If you frame it in your own mind that it is "for now" to help you cope that may be easier for you. Don't think of it as "forever". I had VERY little contact with our son for a few years. Husband had some but I just had to pull back. He was not doing anything that I wanted him to do and I refused to accept that. I got sick of hurting so bad all the time due to his poor choices and the way he was living his life - if you can even call it living. He knew I loved him and that was all I could offer him during the time of his self-destruction.</p><p></p><p>Copa - I did not realize your son was home. I think that the way you are approaching it this time is a great compromise. I do so hope that it works for you and Thank God for M!!! Sometimes we need to let the men deal with it!! Cudos to you for trying out something new!!!</p><p></p><p>This is so hard on us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 747235, member: 15032"] Ladies Just a few comments. I always struggled being between my husband and my son (it is our son together). It was like being in a vortex. Horrible. The way that I dealt with this was to remember that even in the Bible it says that your husband/spouse comes first. That is what helped guide me. That is how it is intended - husband comes first. Our son used to get between us terribly. Before he came to live with us this last time (after 13 month faith based program and before that living out of state in sober living and screwing up a LOT) I told him to RESPECT our marriage. I don't think he ever did that before but he was very young so the concept probably wasn't really something he could grasp. He does respect our marriage and privacy now thankfully. As for going no contact, try to be gentle with yourselves mommas! If you frame it in your own mind that it is "for now" to help you cope that may be easier for you. Don't think of it as "forever". I had VERY little contact with our son for a few years. Husband had some but I just had to pull back. He was not doing anything that I wanted him to do and I refused to accept that. I got sick of hurting so bad all the time due to his poor choices and the way he was living his life - if you can even call it living. He knew I loved him and that was all I could offer him during the time of his self-destruction. Copa - I did not realize your son was home. I think that the way you are approaching it this time is a great compromise. I do so hope that it works for you and Thank God for M!!! Sometimes we need to let the men deal with it!! Cudos to you for trying out something new!!! This is so hard on us. [/QUOTE]
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