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<blockquote data-quote="Megs87" data-source="post: 743991" data-attributes="member: 22386"><p>Thank you so much for you response and advice. I worry that I am looking into things so deeply now that I end up missing the obvious because I'm so focused on what I can do that is the "right" thing in any situation. Though I do recognize some of her behavior as a typical kid that is learning how to navigate through life. I remember being like this when i was her age at times. I guess where my mind wanders to her diagnosis is her tantrums that are not the typical response you would see an 8 yr old do. She processes things so much different than i can comprehend much less her peers and I understand that with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) I will not be able to. I try and be patient and understand her and that's where i get scrambled with my own issues I have in life. I always fear I am doing it the wrong way and pushing her back further. I always second question myself. I fear that I will be the mom that makes all the excuses and enables while 'sticking my head in the sand'. I am working on that also with my counselor. I have really bad anxiety when it comes to conflicts with my daughter and I know it shouldn't bother me but I almost always feel like I am being watched and judged by every lil step I make regarding her behavior and how I handle it. I constantly hear from family and few other, " that's not how I would of handled that" or my absolute favorite, "if she were my child she would hate me because I would have already had her calmed down and she wouldnt like the way I would go about it". I usually just let it roll right off my shoulders and either ignore their ignorant responses or other times I am not as strong and I hit back with, "well its good that she isnt your child, matter of fact, it's a good thing you do not even have a child". "Walk a mile in my shoes or better yet how about you try and walk a yard in her shoes and then come back to me and we can try this "talk" again." You had some great advice on how to handle these types of situations and I greatly appreciate it.</p><p>We have an SBLC "School Building Level Commitee" meeting on the 13th that I am very anxious for because last years was a blow. I was not very well informed and did not know how it all works and allowed her to fall through the cracks. She was what some consider a late diagnosis. We didnt get the answers until she was almost 7 or shortly after. Once we got that though it all started to make since and everythibg that I was so concerned about and didnt undetstand was like a puzzle that was just coming together in my head as I sat and dwelled on everything we had been through-through the years. .</p><p></p><p>Thanks again, your encouragement means more than u may even know. I am my worst critic and I can be brutal with my judgement of myself. 1 step at a time and 1 day at a time <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Megs87, post: 743991, member: 22386"] Thank you so much for you response and advice. I worry that I am looking into things so deeply now that I end up missing the obvious because I'm so focused on what I can do that is the "right" thing in any situation. Though I do recognize some of her behavior as a typical kid that is learning how to navigate through life. I remember being like this when i was her age at times. I guess where my mind wanders to her diagnosis is her tantrums that are not the typical response you would see an 8 yr old do. She processes things so much different than i can comprehend much less her peers and I understand that with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) I will not be able to. I try and be patient and understand her and that's where i get scrambled with my own issues I have in life. I always fear I am doing it the wrong way and pushing her back further. I always second question myself. I fear that I will be the mom that makes all the excuses and enables while 'sticking my head in the sand'. I am working on that also with my counselor. I have really bad anxiety when it comes to conflicts with my daughter and I know it shouldn't bother me but I almost always feel like I am being watched and judged by every lil step I make regarding her behavior and how I handle it. I constantly hear from family and few other, " that's not how I would of handled that" or my absolute favorite, "if she were my child she would hate me because I would have already had her calmed down and she wouldnt like the way I would go about it". I usually just let it roll right off my shoulders and either ignore their ignorant responses or other times I am not as strong and I hit back with, "well its good that she isnt your child, matter of fact, it's a good thing you do not even have a child". "Walk a mile in my shoes or better yet how about you try and walk a yard in her shoes and then come back to me and we can try this "talk" again." You had some great advice on how to handle these types of situations and I greatly appreciate it. We have an SBLC "School Building Level Commitee" meeting on the 13th that I am very anxious for because last years was a blow. I was not very well informed and did not know how it all works and allowed her to fall through the cracks. She was what some consider a late diagnosis. We didnt get the answers until she was almost 7 or shortly after. Once we got that though it all started to make since and everythibg that I was so concerned about and didnt undetstand was like a puzzle that was just coming together in my head as I sat and dwelled on everything we had been through-through the years. . Thanks again, your encouragement means more than u may even know. I am my worst critic and I can be brutal with my judgement of myself. 1 step at a time and 1 day at a time :) [/QUOTE]
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