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Our 15 yo son is in Juvi and we are afraid to take him back home
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 410786" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'm not sure you can go to a domestic violence place over a minor you have custody of anyway. I think you pretty much have to stick to juvenile courts intake. Fortunately, he has stuck with the misdemeanor level damage to house and verbal assualts so far. Stll, if he comes home and continues to do that, I would recommend reporting it to juvenile authorities and demanding they do something IF you can't find any help any other way. If you don't, it will worsen. I made this mistake with my son who is now in juvie prison for the second time and both committing offenses were offenses against me. The first one, he held a knife up to me and demanded I get him cigarettes. Within a couple of months after being released from 14 months of incarceration for that, he used a knife to cut my pockets in a pair of shorts while I was asleep to steal my money. I had been in the habit of sleeping with money, keys, etc, in my pockets. Anyway, just a warning- these things usually don't get better on there own and usually get a lot worse without serious intervention of some sort. My son did these things after a few years of damaging the house and so forth. I will say he has never verbalized threats to kill me. I am his bio mom so I don't know- but clearly, if he pulled sa knife on me to intimidate me into giving him what he wanted and then after being so-called rehabilitated, robbed me with a knife while I slept, he's out of control.</p><p></p><p>So I completely understand the emotional fireworks you are feeling. I still am going through that. I bounce from guilt to anger to hurt to fear for me to fear for my son to worry for him, etc. Still, I love him more than anything. I just hope someday he can get a grip on himself and maybe we'll at least be able to talk thru some of this. But i can't see it happening until he matures more and works some issues out for himself. His father was never in his life and this has caused him a great deal of pain. These kids that grow up feeling like even one parent rejected them can really struggle with their own identity, anger, self-confidence, have trust issues, etc. They do go thru a lot of pain. Of course, that doesn't justify treating those that do care about them like **** but you know how that goes when you're a teen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 410786, member: 3699"] I'm not sure you can go to a domestic violence place over a minor you have custody of anyway. I think you pretty much have to stick to juvenile courts intake. Fortunately, he has stuck with the misdemeanor level damage to house and verbal assualts so far. Stll, if he comes home and continues to do that, I would recommend reporting it to juvenile authorities and demanding they do something IF you can't find any help any other way. If you don't, it will worsen. I made this mistake with my son who is now in juvie prison for the second time and both committing offenses were offenses against me. The first one, he held a knife up to me and demanded I get him cigarettes. Within a couple of months after being released from 14 months of incarceration for that, he used a knife to cut my pockets in a pair of shorts while I was asleep to steal my money. I had been in the habit of sleeping with money, keys, etc, in my pockets. Anyway, just a warning- these things usually don't get better on there own and usually get a lot worse without serious intervention of some sort. My son did these things after a few years of damaging the house and so forth. I will say he has never verbalized threats to kill me. I am his bio mom so I don't know- but clearly, if he pulled sa knife on me to intimidate me into giving him what he wanted and then after being so-called rehabilitated, robbed me with a knife while I slept, he's out of control. So I completely understand the emotional fireworks you are feeling. I still am going through that. I bounce from guilt to anger to hurt to fear for me to fear for my son to worry for him, etc. Still, I love him more than anything. I just hope someday he can get a grip on himself and maybe we'll at least be able to talk thru some of this. But i can't see it happening until he matures more and works some issues out for himself. His father was never in his life and this has caused him a great deal of pain. These kids that grow up feeling like even one parent rejected them can really struggle with their own identity, anger, self-confidence, have trust issues, etc. They do go thru a lot of pain. Of course, that doesn't justify treating those that do care about them like **** but you know how that goes when you're a teen. [/QUOTE]
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