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Our 15 yo son is in Juvi and we are afraid to take him back home
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 411535" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Dad,</p><p>1. The abondonment will affect your credentials only if they find you were abusive.Trying to get your kid help is a different ball of wax. I did have a chat with our human resource person as well as the lawyer. It was hard to share, but he said that my job was not in jeopardy. I also called DCFS and told them what I was going to be forced to to do. I asked if they could help me before things get too bad and they told me only if she was in the system-which meant we had to get before a judge-which we did. We did leave her at youth services and refuse custody once because she was a danger to herself. DCFS did call the next day and I explained-" I am trying to get her help". We are out of money and DESPERATE, the only right choice is to get her in state custody so services are available. She ran away from Youth services that night, and that ended that as she ended up coming home to us-we started all over again.</p><p>2.The state has temporary custody as per the judge and the needed recommendations from O and A</p><p>3.We did not need to refuse custody this time as she was already in temporary custody to get assessed. In our state, when children in the justice system have treatment needs more than criminal needs, they often have them assessed (45 day deal), so they can determine what is needed. It is kind of a gatekeeping thing, I also think it is a way control money. So if you get this assessment, provide them with all the stuff you have (past records) and I wrote an 8 page "blow by blow" of her life. I called often, I made sure they heard me and what I thought was best!</p><p>3.There were no charges filed for abondonment when we did it, only the call that was pretty nasty to start until he got what I was trying to do. It did not play out though since she ran off and ended back at home- you may want a consult with a lawyer to see how your state works. </p><p>4.OUr family phsycologist wrote a letter and spoke to her PO and the O and A team about Aubrey's need. When a professional is involved, it helps. One professional is less likely to recommend something different- I'd get the psychologist involved who made this recommend. Our has been a god send.</p><p>5. We got to DCFS because her needs were therapeutic not criminal- like your son's. When you have all these mental illness issues, those have to be treated. The O and A team made the recommendation because of that and because I kept pushing it. We are going to need help for several years. The judge then gave temporary custody to DCFS in the hearing. A judge does not have to do what is recommended by the way. DCFS wanted us to take her home and offer wrap around service- I told the judge there was no way as she was a runner and the issues were mental health not a crappy family!</p><p>6.They took 2 months pay slips. They determine an amount that would have left us in the poor house- we appealed. It is 1,000 a month, a lot for a teacher and custodian. We are making it- provided nothing breaks or we have an emergency.</p><p>7.I did try DCFS and every noprofit around. I spent an entire day calling for help, in tears and exhausted. At the end of the day, our only hope was that she committ a crime (beyond running, truancy,and homemade bongs) and we get before a judge for help. Thank God he heard us and her PO was so responsive. Hang in, get your documents in a row, call everyone. Your teachers union may be able to help with a cheaper lawyer as well. Good things can happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 411535, member: 11001"] Dad, 1. The abondonment will affect your credentials only if they find you were abusive.Trying to get your kid help is a different ball of wax. I did have a chat with our human resource person as well as the lawyer. It was hard to share, but he said that my job was not in jeopardy. I also called DCFS and told them what I was going to be forced to to do. I asked if they could help me before things get too bad and they told me only if she was in the system-which meant we had to get before a judge-which we did. We did leave her at youth services and refuse custody once because she was a danger to herself. DCFS did call the next day and I explained-" I am trying to get her help". We are out of money and DESPERATE, the only right choice is to get her in state custody so services are available. She ran away from Youth services that night, and that ended that as she ended up coming home to us-we started all over again. 2.The state has temporary custody as per the judge and the needed recommendations from O and A 3.We did not need to refuse custody this time as she was already in temporary custody to get assessed. In our state, when children in the justice system have treatment needs more than criminal needs, they often have them assessed (45 day deal), so they can determine what is needed. It is kind of a gatekeeping thing, I also think it is a way control money. So if you get this assessment, provide them with all the stuff you have (past records) and I wrote an 8 page "blow by blow" of her life. I called often, I made sure they heard me and what I thought was best! 3.There were no charges filed for abondonment when we did it, only the call that was pretty nasty to start until he got what I was trying to do. It did not play out though since she ran off and ended back at home- you may want a consult with a lawyer to see how your state works. 4.OUr family phsycologist wrote a letter and spoke to her PO and the O and A team about Aubrey's need. When a professional is involved, it helps. One professional is less likely to recommend something different- I'd get the psychologist involved who made this recommend. Our has been a god send. 5. We got to DCFS because her needs were therapeutic not criminal- like your son's. When you have all these mental illness issues, those have to be treated. The O and A team made the recommendation because of that and because I kept pushing it. We are going to need help for several years. The judge then gave temporary custody to DCFS in the hearing. A judge does not have to do what is recommended by the way. DCFS wanted us to take her home and offer wrap around service- I told the judge there was no way as she was a runner and the issues were mental health not a crappy family! 6.They took 2 months pay slips. They determine an amount that would have left us in the poor house- we appealed. It is 1,000 a month, a lot for a teacher and custodian. We are making it- provided nothing breaks or we have an emergency. 7.I did try DCFS and every noprofit around. I spent an entire day calling for help, in tears and exhausted. At the end of the day, our only hope was that she committ a crime (beyond running, truancy,and homemade bongs) and we get before a judge for help. Thank God he heard us and her PO was so responsive. Hang in, get your documents in a row, call everyone. Your teachers union may be able to help with a cheaper lawyer as well. Good things can happen. [/QUOTE]
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