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<blockquote data-quote="A dad" data-source="post: 694508" data-attributes="member: 18668"><p>No law forces children to keep contact with their parents here either is not about law is about culture laws should not do anything about such situations society should do the forcing making it a immoral and hated thing even if not illegal. Like with being polite as the law does not require you to be polite but you are because society expects that of you not that there are no people who are not polite but they suffer consequences imposed by society upon them. </p><p>Here we are more family oriented and independence is not that important where in USA, Germany, UK and the Scandinavian countries having a grown adult living with you is a criticized thing we do not care. </p><p>We have terrible social service I mean a child will be taken from his parents for 2 reasons they give him up or he suffers terrible abuse like his hitting him with a ax on his head why because there are no money to raise the children and not many people adopt in this country either for them to not be raised by the state and you know what happens when they grow up well and be on their own well they jump from the roof of the building they where raised in a huge minority of them but they do the rest well have a very hard life. And this our future and this is how much help they get.</p><p>For our elders well got protect them if they do not have family when they can not take care of themselves anymore. We need our family not want need if we do not have it we will have a very hard life. There basically our only means of support so yeah that is why our culture is so family oriented. For example a child goes to kindergarten at 3 years old your maternity leave only 1 year who will take care of your child for the next 2 years while you are at work and you need to work. Grandmother of course so you can not afford to get estranged from her because you have little choice. </p><p>The sort of estrangement you are talking about is common in Europe the countries I mentioned in the rest not so much why because they are rich enough to take some of the responsibilities of the family and they can afford to cut ties with family members. Not so much here he need our family and we tolerate a lat flaws they have some flaws that people complain about in this forum are things that we tolerate and live with like being messy or coming back late or being disrespectful once or conflict with daughter or son in law. My mother is in a passive aggressive war with one of my sisters in law for over 20 years such a waste of time she will not get rid of her and she knows it by now after all she has 2 grand kids by her and its over 20 years just accept each other already you spend energy with no result.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="A dad, post: 694508, member: 18668"] No law forces children to keep contact with their parents here either is not about law is about culture laws should not do anything about such situations society should do the forcing making it a immoral and hated thing even if not illegal. Like with being polite as the law does not require you to be polite but you are because society expects that of you not that there are no people who are not polite but they suffer consequences imposed by society upon them. Here we are more family oriented and independence is not that important where in USA, Germany, UK and the Scandinavian countries having a grown adult living with you is a criticized thing we do not care. We have terrible social service I mean a child will be taken from his parents for 2 reasons they give him up or he suffers terrible abuse like his hitting him with a ax on his head why because there are no money to raise the children and not many people adopt in this country either for them to not be raised by the state and you know what happens when they grow up well and be on their own well they jump from the roof of the building they where raised in a huge minority of them but they do the rest well have a very hard life. And this our future and this is how much help they get. For our elders well got protect them if they do not have family when they can not take care of themselves anymore. We need our family not want need if we do not have it we will have a very hard life. There basically our only means of support so yeah that is why our culture is so family oriented. For example a child goes to kindergarten at 3 years old your maternity leave only 1 year who will take care of your child for the next 2 years while you are at work and you need to work. Grandmother of course so you can not afford to get estranged from her because you have little choice. The sort of estrangement you are talking about is common in Europe the countries I mentioned in the rest not so much why because they are rich enough to take some of the responsibilities of the family and they can afford to cut ties with family members. Not so much here he need our family and we tolerate a lat flaws they have some flaws that people complain about in this forum are things that we tolerate and live with like being messy or coming back late or being disrespectful once or conflict with daughter or son in law. My mother is in a passive aggressive war with one of my sisters in law for over 20 years such a waste of time she will not get rid of her and she knows it by now after all she has 2 grand kids by her and its over 20 years just accept each other already you spend energy with no result. [/QUOTE]
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