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<blockquote data-quote="Wish" data-source="post: 738119" data-attributes="member: 23140"><p>At certain times I do miss my privacy a lot but for the most part, no I don't. I get asked that a lot too. </p><p></p><p>Yes I do make friendships. Some of them still come to visit me from time to time and I still hear from most of them as well via facebook. </p><p></p><p>I too am untrusting and yet very open at the same time. You and I have that in common. So long as you are firm in the begining about rules and that non-sense will not be tolerated in your home, you will most likely do well. It's all in how you write your ad. How you write your ad will weed out most of the people who are no good. They can tell by what you write that they will not be able to get away with much if they have any ill intentions or bad lifestyles and habits. For example, in my ad, I write "Absolutely no drinking and no drugs. I have no room for that kind of behavior in my life and you will be shown the door quickly if you choose to do that". Just by writing that, they will bypass your ad. Also mentioning that you do a criminal background check will help as well. You have to know how to come off in your ad as firm and won't take any crap but you also don't want to appear like a dictator so you want to show that your kind as well. </p><p></p><p>Although I am firm, I am also very kind, caring and giving to all of my roommates. I make sure that they are living comfortably and their happiness matters to me. </p><p></p><p>I too live close to a University and I have had students as my roommates as well. Most students who search for roommates outside of dorms to live and also look for older people to live with like myself as suppose to their own age, is because they don't like the whole party atmosphere or they don't feel like they fit in with their peers. The students that I had here were very nice and pleasant and I didn't have a problem with them at all (except they think they know it all but didn't we all at that age?). They just mostly focused on their studies or worked.</p><p></p><p>Now don't get me wrong, with all my roommates, we definitely had some personality conflicts no matter what age they were. It will and never will be all hukey dorey. There will be disagreements. You will get annoyed with them and you will get upset by them (and vise versa). It's guaranteed. You either are the type of a person that can deal with that or not. I would have meetings if the problem was getting out of hand and we would talk about it. Sometimes the meetings would have to happen a few times for it to sink in. Most of all, you can't be afraid to address a problem with your roommate and call it right on the spot in a kind but firm way. It took me a few years to learn this. Remember, you're home, you are the boss and the decisions are yours to make. Period.</p><p></p><p>My most current roommate, the male, he is a whole 'nother story LOL .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wish, post: 738119, member: 23140"] At certain times I do miss my privacy a lot but for the most part, no I don't. I get asked that a lot too. Yes I do make friendships. Some of them still come to visit me from time to time and I still hear from most of them as well via facebook. I too am untrusting and yet very open at the same time. You and I have that in common. So long as you are firm in the begining about rules and that non-sense will not be tolerated in your home, you will most likely do well. It's all in how you write your ad. How you write your ad will weed out most of the people who are no good. They can tell by what you write that they will not be able to get away with much if they have any ill intentions or bad lifestyles and habits. For example, in my ad, I write "Absolutely no drinking and no drugs. I have no room for that kind of behavior in my life and you will be shown the door quickly if you choose to do that". Just by writing that, they will bypass your ad. Also mentioning that you do a criminal background check will help as well. You have to know how to come off in your ad as firm and won't take any crap but you also don't want to appear like a dictator so you want to show that your kind as well. Although I am firm, I am also very kind, caring and giving to all of my roommates. I make sure that they are living comfortably and their happiness matters to me. I too live close to a University and I have had students as my roommates as well. Most students who search for roommates outside of dorms to live and also look for older people to live with like myself as suppose to their own age, is because they don't like the whole party atmosphere or they don't feel like they fit in with their peers. The students that I had here were very nice and pleasant and I didn't have a problem with them at all (except they think they know it all but didn't we all at that age?). They just mostly focused on their studies or worked. Now don't get me wrong, with all my roommates, we definitely had some personality conflicts no matter what age they were. It will and never will be all hukey dorey. There will be disagreements. You will get annoyed with them and you will get upset by them (and vise versa). It's guaranteed. You either are the type of a person that can deal with that or not. I would have meetings if the problem was getting out of hand and we would talk about it. Sometimes the meetings would have to happen a few times for it to sink in. Most of all, you can't be afraid to address a problem with your roommate and call it right on the spot in a kind but firm way. It took me a few years to learn this. Remember, you're home, you are the boss and the decisions are yours to make. Period. My most current roommate, the male, he is a whole 'nother story LOL . [/QUOTE]
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