I'm sorry I'm late coming in on this. Been off the site for a couple of days.
I'm sorry your heart is hurting. My son sounds very much like yours. Mine is currently doing 2 years in prison but before he was arrested he was and has been homeless. He too will find people who he can manipulate then his true colors come out and he burns another bridge. My husband and I also gave our son numerous 2nd chances trying to help him.
I know it's hard to accept that your son has chosen to live his life the way he has but remember, these are HIS choices. I do not blame your family for being done with him.
If your parents don't like you spending time with him, that's on them. If they say anything about it you could tell them something like "He's my son, I love him and I wanted to see him. End of discussion"
If they want to discuss it further you could tell them something like "I'm here with you now and want to spend time enjoying your company and discussing "son" is not enjoyable"
Hold your head high. You did not create the chaotic mess, your son did. That's on him not you.
I hope you are able to have nice visit with your family, son included. When you watch him walk away to go back to his "homeless" life, remember, it's HIS choice to live that way.
Please post again and let us know how things went.
((HUGS)) to you............
