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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 77080" data-attributes="member: 1545">&quot;I wanted her to see that she's made her choice and that we're not pining away for her to come home&quot; &quot;it might give her a little jolt&quot;.It sounds like you might be feeling like striking back at her for her choice to move out ... and while I understand your hurt ... I wouldn't do anything that you might regret later.&nbsp; Give yourself some time.&nbsp; Give her some time.She may be hurt by this Jo.&nbsp; I know she has made some poor choices ... but try to remember that she is only 17.&nbsp; I assume that your desire is to restore the relationship with her.&nbsp;&nbsp; (note: I didn't say have her move back home any time soon) I think that you are (intentionally or subconsciously) sending a rather strong message to her.&nbsp; It may drive the wedge even further in my opinion.If it were me ... I may have packed up summer stuff ... cleaned up a bit ... but I probably would not have 'moved her out' completely.If it were me ... I would put her things back in a tidy fashion and tell her that you just cleaned up a little.If she is still gone from your home a year from now, maybe then you could convert her room.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 77080, member: 1545"] "I wanted her to see that she's made her choice and that we're not pining away for her to come home" "it might give her a little jolt". It sounds like you might be feeling like striking back at her for her choice to move out ... and while I understand your hurt ... I wouldn't do anything that you might regret later. Give yourself some time. Give her some time. She may be hurt by this Jo. I know she has made some poor choices ... but try to remember that she is only 17. I assume that your desire is to restore the relationship with her. (note: I didn't say have her move back home any time soon) I think that you are (intentionally or subconsciously) sending a rather strong message to her. It may drive the wedge even further in my opinion. If it were me ... I may have packed up summer stuff ... cleaned up a bit ... but I probably would not have 'moved her out' completely. If it were me ... I would put her things back in a tidy fashion and tell her that you just cleaned up a little. If she is still gone from your home a year from now, maybe then you could convert her room. [/QUOTE]

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