You could be describing my situation exactly, that was 8 or 9 years ago. you need to have really, thick rhino skin to deal with him and the family members. Your son is mad as heck right now, ignore that. It will soon sink into his head that now he has to provide for himsel and by treating you this way....he will get nothing from you. Nothing. He doesn't see that yet, he is trying to bully you but don't take the bait. Stand strong, this is actually helping him, yorsu parents don't see this, but we do here on this board. You are doing a good job.
Listen, this may go on for a few years. But, as in my situation and others, he will get his life together and come back to you. The hard part is now. We didn't give gifts when our son was calling us names and out like yours, but we had a restraining order anyway. Our relatives thought we were THE WORST people in all the land, they still think it. But, you don't want a 30 year old or 50 year old living on your couch do you? My sister in law's brother is in 50's and still lives home with his mommy and she coddles him ...it's so weird...yet they think we were mean to our son all those years ago. Our son thanks us now for doing that and so wills yours. Hold on. Hugs.
