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Peace after trauma. Can you share your secrets please?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 731575" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Swot. I am the last person to give counsel on putting to rest foo pain and memories. It is 4.5 yesrs since my mother's death. Even y few months I check online to see where my sister lives. She changed states last year. And left a job, to begin self employment. I know that by Google and Zillow. She is selling a house as we speak.</p><p></p><p>More or less I accept I will not see her again. I feel sad about the times through the years she made attempts to reach out. But I know I was never safe.</p><p></p><p>Both because she was dangerous and because I lacked the tools to protect myself and know and act on my needs</p><p></p><p>I think the latter is crucial.</p><p></p><p>I am learning now how to stay in the present. Centered in my body. For example. I have learned an exercise where I sit with my feet firmly planted on the floor. I focus on them. Then on my hands traveling thru the parts of my peripheral body. And finally on my chest and breathing.It is a form of meditation.</p><p></p><p>When a negative story enters my mind after I have done this, it lacks the pain and charge it had before. It feels unimportant and i feel peace.</p><p></p><p>You see. I am seeing the stories (of past hurts) as unimportant. They are just so much noise that clutters my mind.</p><p></p><p>My life is right now,. As is yours. We could make an interpretation, that it is guilt over what we have, and guilt leaving them behind. But why bother,?</p><p></p><p>For me learning techniques to center myself in my body/mind becomes a new way to live. While my life story matters, like you do, I want to live in the present.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 731575, member: 18958"] Swot. I am the last person to give counsel on putting to rest foo pain and memories. It is 4.5 yesrs since my mother's death. Even y few months I check online to see where my sister lives. She changed states last year. And left a job, to begin self employment. I know that by Google and Zillow. She is selling a house as we speak. More or less I accept I will not see her again. I feel sad about the times through the years she made attempts to reach out. But I know I was never safe. Both because she was dangerous and because I lacked the tools to protect myself and know and act on my needs I think the latter is crucial. I am learning now how to stay in the present. Centered in my body. For example. I have learned an exercise where I sit with my feet firmly planted on the floor. I focus on them. Then on my hands traveling thru the parts of my peripheral body. And finally on my chest and breathing.It is a form of meditation. When a negative story enters my mind after I have done this, it lacks the pain and charge it had before. It feels unimportant and i feel peace. You see. I am seeing the stories (of past hurts) as unimportant. They are just so much noise that clutters my mind. My life is right now,. As is yours. We could make an interpretation, that it is guilt over what we have, and guilt leaving them behind. But why bother,? For me learning techniques to center myself in my body/mind becomes a new way to live. While my life story matters, like you do, I want to live in the present. [/QUOTE]
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