Sounds like a pretty rough time lately. I hope your perspective sticks around. It stinks when our kids make dumb choices.
I am so sorry he keeps thinking you are doing all this.
What is the plan if he does manage to really screw up? Back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Another placement somewhere else? Is this something you need to think about?
I don't think it sounds as if he is going to be safe at home with the rest of the family. If he is already stealing (through whatever means), it can't be very far to violent behaviors.
I am so sorry. I know it hurts.
Susie