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<blockquote data-quote="rebelson" data-source="post: 677348" data-attributes="member: 19966"><p>My son called me an hour ago. Said he was going night ocean fishing on his friends boat, and asked me for $15. I said no I could not do that. That I could not give him any money that he could use for alcohol, especially while out on a boat at night. He said he needed it for bait. I know, wrong answer, but I said I would give him $5 for the bait. He said if he wanted the $15 to buy alcohol with, he could easily not ask me & go to the store and use the gift cards that I sent him (which he very well may have depleted already). So those maybe are not even an option for alcohol, if they are empty of $. Hence, why he is asking me for $? I told him I can't trust what he would do with the money, & that I refuse to further contribute to anything that is harmful to him. (I.e. Etoh)</p><p></p><p>Long story short I held firm and eventually had to hang up on him. He was irate. Literally, I liken it to a "temper tantrum". Immediately he begins belittling, bashing, calling me names. Horrible names. He called me every minute for six minutes straight, no msgs. Just kept calling over and over. When that didn't work (I didn't pick up) he started texting me the more horrible, mean nastiness. My husband, who was at work, got a few of his own texts from son. One of them son told him to get his name tattoo OFF his arm. Again. He was oblivious to what was going on so he called me and asked what was up with son. When my husband came home he was so mad! He told me not to give him a dime. Said he is contemplating covering up my sons name tattoo on his arm. He's sick and tired, I need to get there.</p><p></p><p>Finally, after about 30 minutes of almost continuous calls and texts.... My phone quieted down. I don't know why, but he goes for the jugular..in terms of saying the most hurtful things. His father used to do that to me when we were together. Is this genetic?</p><p></p><p>Edited to add that now my worry/anxiety mode is kicking in. Picturing him on the ocean, at night, potentially with someone else's alcohol. I feel my anxiety ramping up right now....pls pray for us. I seriously feel my heart rate increasing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelson, post: 677348, member: 19966"] My son called me an hour ago. Said he was going night ocean fishing on his friends boat, and asked me for $15. I said no I could not do that. That I could not give him any money that he could use for alcohol, especially while out on a boat at night. He said he needed it for bait. I know, wrong answer, but I said I would give him $5 for the bait. He said if he wanted the $15 to buy alcohol with, he could easily not ask me & go to the store and use the gift cards that I sent him (which he very well may have depleted already). So those maybe are not even an option for alcohol, if they are empty of $. Hence, why he is asking me for $? I told him I can't trust what he would do with the money, & that I refuse to further contribute to anything that is harmful to him. (I.e. Etoh) Long story short I held firm and eventually had to hang up on him. He was irate. Literally, I liken it to a "temper tantrum". Immediately he begins belittling, bashing, calling me names. Horrible names. He called me every minute for six minutes straight, no msgs. Just kept calling over and over. When that didn't work (I didn't pick up) he started texting me the more horrible, mean nastiness. My husband, who was at work, got a few of his own texts from son. One of them son told him to get his name tattoo OFF his arm. Again. He was oblivious to what was going on so he called me and asked what was up with son. When my husband came home he was so mad! He told me not to give him a dime. Said he is contemplating covering up my sons name tattoo on his arm. He's sick and tired, I need to get there. Finally, after about 30 minutes of almost continuous calls and texts.... My phone quieted down. I don't know why, but he goes for the jugular..in terms of saying the most hurtful things. His father used to do that to me when we were together. Is this genetic? Edited to add that now my worry/anxiety mode is kicking in. Picturing him on the ocean, at night, potentially with someone else's alcohol. I feel my anxiety ramping up right now....pls pray for us. I seriously feel my heart rate increasing. [/QUOTE]
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