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Please help with our decision to bail 35 yr old son out of jail..
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 636877" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I agree with the others. It would have to be some one in a million, extreme situation for me to even consider it...like someone in the family was on their death bed and death was imminent and they were requesting his presence.</p><p></p><p>I also agree that it doesn't do them any good to "bail them out," both literally and figuratively.</p><p></p><p>Generally speaking, I think doing the "extras" for our difficult children past the age of 21 is not a good idea. And, when they have hit age 30, forget about it. AND you and your spouse have your own health concerns.</p><p></p><p>I also agree that you should seriously consider getting yourself to a support group like Al Anon or Families Anonymous.</p><p></p><p>Time for you to enjoy life as it should be. He needs to accept the consequences of his actions. Later, if he is appropriate and willing to try, you might offer to help him find a rehab or doctor, etc. But, best to GREATLY LIMIT your involvement. Don't get me wrong, this is sad, unfair...even painful. I'm sorry. But, you will NOT be helping him and you WILL be hurting yourself.</p><p></p><p>No bail.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 636877, member: 4152"] I agree with the others. It would have to be some one in a million, extreme situation for me to even consider it...like someone in the family was on their death bed and death was imminent and they were requesting his presence. I also agree that it doesn't do them any good to "bail them out," both literally and figuratively. Generally speaking, I think doing the "extras" for our difficult children past the age of 21 is not a good idea. And, when they have hit age 30, forget about it. AND you and your spouse have your own health concerns. I also agree that you should seriously consider getting yourself to a support group like Al Anon or Families Anonymous. Time for you to enjoy life as it should be. He needs to accept the consequences of his actions. Later, if he is appropriate and willing to try, you might offer to help him find a rehab or doctor, etc. But, best to GREATLY LIMIT your involvement. Don't get me wrong, this is sad, unfair...even painful. I'm sorry. But, you will NOT be helping him and you WILL be hurting yourself. No bail. [/QUOTE]
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