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<blockquote data-quote="jaeco" data-source="post: 290507" data-attributes="member: 1576"><p>Thanks for the reply. I don't know what to tell myself! I tried taking her to interviews but I work and can't get her there very often....she then has that as an excuse. I even tried going in with her and sort of lurking in the back of the restaurant or wherever she is applying...how bizarre and encouraging is that for prospective employer?? I only did this because IF we found an opening, IF I got her there, sometimes she wouldn't be in there long enough to fill out an application or she'd say they filled the position. I'd then call sometimes to see if they were still hiring and if they said they were, she'd say well, I told you nobody would want me. People probably do not at this point. Her front four teeth are just rotten and she is very self-conscious about this and that probably puts off a lot of employers. I can't get her to the clinic for unemployed because she said the one time she went there they were like butchers. In other words, she does not want to help herself at all usually, will come up with any and all excuses. But then it breaks my heart..sometimes she'll come here, do laundry, be in a decent mood, clean up and be optimistic for her, I'll take her to apply and she's trying so hard to be social and that is really hard for her.....I've seen her hang signs over her bed saying things like *Get Up And Do Something*.I know that giving her money doesn't work at all but neither does lying in that filth. I couldn't pull myself up from that I don't think. She's running out of time. She can't move back here because our house looked like hers when she lived here and the dogs destroyed the upstairs and it took major luck that she moved. Things were really dire here at that time. My husband had a breakdown and we are all different because of that period of time. At that time she was addicted to heroin and we had a lock on our bedroom door...still do. She did manage to kick that and she smokes pot. Her dad was very similar to her...would always be better with pot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jaeco, post: 290507, member: 1576"] Thanks for the reply. I don't know what to tell myself! I tried taking her to interviews but I work and can't get her there very often....she then has that as an excuse. I even tried going in with her and sort of lurking in the back of the restaurant or wherever she is applying...how bizarre and encouraging is that for prospective employer?? I only did this because IF we found an opening, IF I got her there, sometimes she wouldn't be in there long enough to fill out an application or she'd say they filled the position. I'd then call sometimes to see if they were still hiring and if they said they were, she'd say well, I told you nobody would want me. People probably do not at this point. Her front four teeth are just rotten and she is very self-conscious about this and that probably puts off a lot of employers. I can't get her to the clinic for unemployed because she said the one time she went there they were like butchers. In other words, she does not want to help herself at all usually, will come up with any and all excuses. But then it breaks my heart..sometimes she'll come here, do laundry, be in a decent mood, clean up and be optimistic for her, I'll take her to apply and she's trying so hard to be social and that is really hard for her.....I've seen her hang signs over her bed saying things like *Get Up And Do Something*.I know that giving her money doesn't work at all but neither does lying in that filth. I couldn't pull myself up from that I don't think. She's running out of time. She can't move back here because our house looked like hers when she lived here and the dogs destroyed the upstairs and it took major luck that she moved. Things were really dire here at that time. My husband had a breakdown and we are all different because of that period of time. At that time she was addicted to heroin and we had a lock on our bedroom door...still do. She did manage to kick that and she smokes pot. Her dad was very similar to her...would always be better with pot. [/QUOTE]
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