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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 529408" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>NO way the Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) could say he doesn't have autism. Sorry, I dont' buy it. SLPs are NOT qualified to make that diagnosis. No matter how much experience they have.</p><p></p><p>He needs to see a developmental pediatrician or a neuropsychologist. Be ready for his diagnosis to change and evolve as he grows up and different things make themselves known. He sounds sooooo much like my Wiz, who has asperger's, that it is amazing. Even the 'angel for everyone else, devil to husband and I".</p><p></p><p>Please,please,please NEVER leave him alone in a roomw ith the baby. Not for 5 seconds or to go to the potty yourself. Take the baby with you. Wiz hurt my daughter a lot. We spend years where if only 1 parent was home, the same sex child had to go into the bathroom with them. it was the ONLY way we could keep J safe. If I walked to the kitchen to get somethng and was gone for 10 seconds, J had a bruise or cut from wiz. All the anger was targetted at her. It was hard to keep her safe. </p><p></p><p>As for the ds, ignore him when he wants it back because he wasn't done. He will fuss and rage, for a while, but if you never ever let him have it back, if that timer is the rule, no matter what, eventually it will be somewhat accepted. If you ever, even ONE time, give it back and let him play for a bit more, he will still be demanding that and truly expecting that in five years. Because that ONE time he won, he got it back, and that was soooo great in his mind that he will truly expect it every time. Even if you never again give in. in my opinion it is part of how his brain works. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like your instincts are pointing you toward autism. Trust your instncts more than an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) who is out of her area of expertise when she rules autism in or out. it s a complex disorder and no 2 people have the same exact form of autism. Actually, from what I have been told by the neuropsychologist, they now think that adhd and sensory integration disorder are both autistic spectrum disorders. It isn't widely known, but he told us that at the conferences he spoke at and attended, this was how the 'experts' are going with classifying these problems. </p><p></p><p>I higly recommend What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Doug Riley and Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood by Faye and Cline. THey are both amazing books and super helpful. I also recommend The Out of Sync Child Has Fun by kranowitz. </p><p></p><p>Have you tried giving your son a reward for playing or reading by himself? It is a way to help him learn independence, and in my opinion all kids need this. Mine used to get a small treat after playing alone. I started with 5 min and worked up to an hour over a period of a year or so. I also instituted "Mommy Time Out" were anyone who disturbed/talked to/interacted with Mommy had to do a chore for Mommy. I used this wehn I was so frazzled that I couldn't cope. It was a huge sanity saver for me, and probably kept me from beating my kids more than once. </p><p></p><p>I would push for school to do a complete evaluation and I would also try to get a neuropsychologist and/or developmental pediatrician to evaluate him. You could look for a children's or university hospital and have them do the evaluations - hopefully they would have a multidisciplinary evaluation wehre different types of professionals all evaluate him and then work to figure out what is going on and how best to help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 529408, member: 1233"] NO way the Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) could say he doesn't have autism. Sorry, I dont' buy it. SLPs are NOT qualified to make that diagnosis. No matter how much experience they have. He needs to see a developmental pediatrician or a neuropsychologist. Be ready for his diagnosis to change and evolve as he grows up and different things make themselves known. He sounds sooooo much like my Wiz, who has asperger's, that it is amazing. Even the 'angel for everyone else, devil to husband and I". Please,please,please NEVER leave him alone in a roomw ith the baby. Not for 5 seconds or to go to the potty yourself. Take the baby with you. Wiz hurt my daughter a lot. We spend years where if only 1 parent was home, the same sex child had to go into the bathroom with them. it was the ONLY way we could keep J safe. If I walked to the kitchen to get somethng and was gone for 10 seconds, J had a bruise or cut from wiz. All the anger was targetted at her. It was hard to keep her safe. As for the ds, ignore him when he wants it back because he wasn't done. He will fuss and rage, for a while, but if you never ever let him have it back, if that timer is the rule, no matter what, eventually it will be somewhat accepted. If you ever, even ONE time, give it back and let him play for a bit more, he will still be demanding that and truly expecting that in five years. Because that ONE time he won, he got it back, and that was soooo great in his mind that he will truly expect it every time. Even if you never again give in. in my opinion it is part of how his brain works. It sounds like your instincts are pointing you toward autism. Trust your instncts more than an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) who is out of her area of expertise when she rules autism in or out. it s a complex disorder and no 2 people have the same exact form of autism. Actually, from what I have been told by the neuropsychologist, they now think that adhd and sensory integration disorder are both autistic spectrum disorders. It isn't widely known, but he told us that at the conferences he spoke at and attended, this was how the 'experts' are going with classifying these problems. I higly recommend What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Doug Riley and Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood by Faye and Cline. THey are both amazing books and super helpful. I also recommend The Out of Sync Child Has Fun by kranowitz. Have you tried giving your son a reward for playing or reading by himself? It is a way to help him learn independence, and in my opinion all kids need this. Mine used to get a small treat after playing alone. I started with 5 min and worked up to an hour over a period of a year or so. I also instituted "Mommy Time Out" were anyone who disturbed/talked to/interacted with Mommy had to do a chore for Mommy. I used this wehn I was so frazzled that I couldn't cope. It was a huge sanity saver for me, and probably kept me from beating my kids more than once. I would push for school to do a complete evaluation and I would also try to get a neuropsychologist and/or developmental pediatrician to evaluate him. You could look for a children's or university hospital and have them do the evaluations - hopefully they would have a multidisciplinary evaluation wehre different types of professionals all evaluate him and then work to figure out what is going on and how best to help. [/QUOTE]
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