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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 374743" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Hello and welcome to our corner of the world. I'm not going to tell you everything will be ok. It seldom is. Life just doesn't work that way. </p><p>Before you pull out your hair with worry, your young guy needs a thorough evaluation by the best specialists you can find and afford. Then get second opinions. </p><p>The school sees the end result behaviors. It's not enough to deal with behavior but to search and search some more for the cause. </p><p></p><p>You haven't given us much background info, just the schools statements. </p><p>Have you noticed anything out of the ordinary in your guy?</p><p>Did he hit the developmental milestones in his early years? Has his pediatrician ever commented on unusual behavior or development?</p><p>What does he do for fun? Does he hang out with friends when away from school? </p><p>Any family history of poor school behavior, alcohol and/or drug abuse, emotional instability etc?</p><p>When you say interaction problems, what does that mean specifically?</p><p>How does he act when angry or frustrated? </p><p>Is he physically violent? </p><p></p><p>If you could look into a crystal ball and see he would turn out ok, you wouldn't be so scared. Unfortunately, none of us get that little gift. Every family deals with some sort of issues. The question is, do you step up and face the issues and work to help a child in need or do you put your head in the sand and hope it goes away. All of us have our baggage in life. It is not a catastrophe or a reflection on the family to have a troubled child. (even if it feels that way) Having a difficult child doesn't make life very easy and it creates some interesting experiences. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there and know that there isn't anything you are facing and going to face that someone here hasn't already done it and lived to tell about it. We are all survivors of parenting very difficult children with many different causes. </p><p></p><p>A Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) is a great start. If you give us a bit more info, we can make some recommendations for books, specialists, educational choices, behavior interventions and anything else you think your child will need. </p><p></p><p>I remember the terror I felt when I realized what the worst case scenario would be for my difficult child if I didn't intervene. </p><p>We all carry some guilt even if we did everything we could but we bury it away so it does not interfere with the resolve to find a way to help our children. </p><p>I hope we can make you and your wife feel a little less alone and little less terrified and make some suggestions that you haven't thought of already. </p><p>Hang in there, it's a bumpy ride but most of us survive to get through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 374743, member: 3"] Hello and welcome to our corner of the world. I'm not going to tell you everything will be ok. It seldom is. Life just doesn't work that way. Before you pull out your hair with worry, your young guy needs a thorough evaluation by the best specialists you can find and afford. Then get second opinions. The school sees the end result behaviors. It's not enough to deal with behavior but to search and search some more for the cause. You haven't given us much background info, just the schools statements. Have you noticed anything out of the ordinary in your guy? Did he hit the developmental milestones in his early years? Has his pediatrician ever commented on unusual behavior or development? What does he do for fun? Does he hang out with friends when away from school? Any family history of poor school behavior, alcohol and/or drug abuse, emotional instability etc? When you say interaction problems, what does that mean specifically? How does he act when angry or frustrated? Is he physically violent? If you could look into a crystal ball and see he would turn out ok, you wouldn't be so scared. Unfortunately, none of us get that little gift. Every family deals with some sort of issues. The question is, do you step up and face the issues and work to help a child in need or do you put your head in the sand and hope it goes away. All of us have our baggage in life. It is not a catastrophe or a reflection on the family to have a troubled child. (even if it feels that way) Having a difficult child doesn't make life very easy and it creates some interesting experiences. Hang in there and know that there isn't anything you are facing and going to face that someone here hasn't already done it and lived to tell about it. We are all survivors of parenting very difficult children with many different causes. A Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) is a great start. If you give us a bit more info, we can make some recommendations for books, specialists, educational choices, behavior interventions and anything else you think your child will need. I remember the terror I felt when I realized what the worst case scenario would be for my difficult child if I didn't intervene. We all carry some guilt even if we did everything we could but we bury it away so it does not interfere with the resolve to find a way to help our children. I hope we can make you and your wife feel a little less alone and little less terrified and make some suggestions that you haven't thought of already. Hang in there, it's a bumpy ride but most of us survive to get through. [/QUOTE]
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