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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 374746" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>I came to this board 9 years ago in desperation because my 5 year old was completely out of control and the "professionals" were recommending that we 'give him back' to the foster care system. That 5 year old is now turning 15 and is a well-behaved young man with successes and career goals. He still has some social skills deficits and anxiety (pretty typical Aspie) but he is such an amazing child I am forever grateful that we did not listen to the 'professionals'.</p><p></p><p>When my now-13 year old was little (3-6 years old), again the 'professionals' told us she was likely retarded and probably deaf. She is now working on her application for the school honor society. She has classic ADHD-Inattentive and requires medication and likely will for a long time but she is happy and successful.</p><p></p><p>My 11-year old son was mis-diagnosed as bipolar at 5 (got to admit it seemed right at the time). We finally were able to get a complete evaluation and he is Autistic. So much made sense at that point. He was a nightmare at school and went on homebound for part of K, 3, 4, and 5th grades. The school was talking about 'alternate placements' and my little first grader was getting suspended. I was terrified that we were going from bad to worse. He is now starting 6th grade in our local public school. He is in the self-contained emotional support classroom most of the day, but he does spend 75 minutes with the reg ed kids. While he still has his issues and needs consistent support, the improvement in him over the last 12-18 months has been nothing short of a miracle. If he continues to improve at this rate, he may be heading off to college just a year or so behind his peers.</p><p></p><p>Then there is Kanga, a 15 year old with more than her share of issues. She has gotten worse since she was about 10. She has been placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for over two years now and --assuming funding holds on--she will become an adult there. She is angry, depressed manic, narcissistic, histrionic, paranoid, delusional and violent. She has also learned how to function as a member of a group, how to set goals and achieve them and how to ask for help when she is feeling depressed. She is learning how to hold a job and how to manage her money. Even in the darkest situations, there is some progress.</p><p></p><p>My step-sister spent 3 years in counseling (ages 14-17) due to anger and depression over her parents divorce. She is 100% 'normal' and successful today - heck by 19 she was doing great!</p><p></p><p>If your son was that bad at school the year before, they should have been calling you then. That fact that they knew he was having these issues and di not call you is in excusable. There is plenty of blame to go around for not seeking help last year. But blame won't help anyone. You have your son in counseling now. </p><p></p><p>I have two recommendations that you do as soon as possible. First, get him an appointment with an adolescent psychiatrist (the one with the MD after their name). While your son might not need long term medication, if he is too angry/depressed, he may need a short time on a medication to help turn it around. Secondly, send the school a certified letter asking for a full and complete evaluation to determine what help he will need at school. Sometimes un-diagnosis learning disabilities can result in that behavior and feelings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 374746, member: 1169"] I came to this board 9 years ago in desperation because my 5 year old was completely out of control and the "professionals" were recommending that we 'give him back' to the foster care system. That 5 year old is now turning 15 and is a well-behaved young man with successes and career goals. He still has some social skills deficits and anxiety (pretty typical Aspie) but he is such an amazing child I am forever grateful that we did not listen to the 'professionals'. When my now-13 year old was little (3-6 years old), again the 'professionals' told us she was likely retarded and probably deaf. She is now working on her application for the school honor society. She has classic ADHD-Inattentive and requires medication and likely will for a long time but she is happy and successful. My 11-year old son was mis-diagnosed as bipolar at 5 (got to admit it seemed right at the time). We finally were able to get a complete evaluation and he is Autistic. So much made sense at that point. He was a nightmare at school and went on homebound for part of K, 3, 4, and 5th grades. The school was talking about 'alternate placements' and my little first grader was getting suspended. I was terrified that we were going from bad to worse. He is now starting 6th grade in our local public school. He is in the self-contained emotional support classroom most of the day, but he does spend 75 minutes with the reg ed kids. While he still has his issues and needs consistent support, the improvement in him over the last 12-18 months has been nothing short of a miracle. If he continues to improve at this rate, he may be heading off to college just a year or so behind his peers. Then there is Kanga, a 15 year old with more than her share of issues. She has gotten worse since she was about 10. She has been placed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for over two years now and --assuming funding holds on--she will become an adult there. She is angry, depressed manic, narcissistic, histrionic, paranoid, delusional and violent. She has also learned how to function as a member of a group, how to set goals and achieve them and how to ask for help when she is feeling depressed. She is learning how to hold a job and how to manage her money. Even in the darkest situations, there is some progress. My step-sister spent 3 years in counseling (ages 14-17) due to anger and depression over her parents divorce. She is 100% 'normal' and successful today - heck by 19 she was doing great! If your son was that bad at school the year before, they should have been calling you then. That fact that they knew he was having these issues and di not call you is in excusable. There is plenty of blame to go around for not seeking help last year. But blame won't help anyone. You have your son in counseling now. I have two recommendations that you do as soon as possible. First, get him an appointment with an adolescent psychiatrist (the one with the MD after their name). While your son might not need long term medication, if he is too angry/depressed, he may need a short time on a medication to help turn it around. Secondly, send the school a certified letter asking for a full and complete evaluation to determine what help he will need at school. Sometimes un-diagnosis learning disabilities can result in that behavior and feelings. [/QUOTE]
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