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<blockquote data-quote="Fairy dust" data-source="post: 765650" data-attributes="member: 25457"><p>Hi there. Basically it is a technique where you don’t allow yourself to get engaged with someone who is showing toxic or abusive behaviours. Minimal responses without sharing a lot of personal information So that you protect yourself from being hurt and manipulated. Unfortunately some folks thrive on chaos and drama and that can include our adult difficult children.&nbsp;&nbsp; google it, there are lots of articles on it.&nbsp; I don’t always do this when interacting with my son, only when I feel tensions escalate or becoming abusive. i found through the years by showing my feelings etc it gave opening to FOG fear, obligation and guilt and sadly my son would be all over that like a vulture to my broken spirit.&nbsp; thanks to therapy and understanding the manipulation I&nbsp; always try to stay strong when with him and refuse to show him any emotion.&nbsp; Of course our interactions are typically not lengthy. Maybe an hour, maybe a few. It’s sad but it is what it is and what I need to do to survive. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Fairy dust, post: 765650, member: 25457"] Hi there. Basically it is a technique where you don’t allow yourself to get engaged with someone who is showing toxic or abusive behaviours. Minimal responses without sharing a lot of personal information So that you protect yourself from being hurt and manipulated. Unfortunately some folks thrive on chaos and drama and that can include our adult difficult children. google it, there are lots of articles on it. I don’t always do this when interacting with my son, only when I feel tensions escalate or becoming abusive. i found through the years by showing my feelings etc it gave opening to FOG fear, obligation and guilt and sadly my son would be all over that like a vulture to my broken spirit. thanks to therapy and understanding the manipulation I always try to stay strong when with him and refuse to show him any emotion. Of course our interactions are typically not lengthy. Maybe an hour, maybe a few. It’s sad but it is what it is and what I need to do to survive. Hugs [/QUOTE]

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