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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 448964" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Thank you all for the thoughtful and caring and even "blunt" responses...</p><p></p><p>As it turns out...my daughter in law realized that she has an unpaid speeding ticket and a Warrant out for her arrest! UHG. </p><p>She figured if we went up to the jail and showed them ID that they might arrest her on the spot. Soooo...no visit last night. </p><p></p><p>Those of you who suggest this is emotional manipulation are likely right. There is no doubt that young difficult child is a master when it comes to feelings. I think it's how Bipolar Disorder manifests itself in young difficult child...He has always been highly sensitive and over-reactive and knows how to get to Most of the females in his life...doesn't "work" on husband so much or even big brother. </p><p></p><p>I am thinking about what you all have said. I don't think it would be wise for me to visit him based on my own mental health issues. As you all may be aware, I had a psychotic breakdown after many panic attacks when oldest difficult child was in jail and then prison. I can't go through that again. The Dr's even told my mom and husband that "bringing me back" would be harder the next time...if that happend to me again. </p><p></p><p>One of the reasons I "was" going to go with daughter in law is because she has no one else that will I believe...and it's a fairly disturbing County Jail to visit. In fact young difficult child used to go with me when I visited oldest difficult child there...LOL, he was my "bodyguard". And daughter in law is an attractive young thing and I don't want her to have to deal with passerby's etc. But...</p><p>I think I will tell daughter in law that I simply cannot go...that she'll HAVE to find someone else to go with her as I have to look out for my own sanity. </p><p></p><p>husband and I went out to dinner last night on a Gift Certificate that my mom got husband and I for our Anniversary which was Monday. Unfortunately husband had to work late Monday so we were not able to celebrate. </p><p></p><p>I was out of medications for almost 3 days but one of the young adults (there are 2 that aren't ours that live with us at the moment) went to the pharmacy and picked up my medications for me yesterday...So, I'm back on track. I was able to sleep better last night but still woke up at around 4 this morning. My hours have been really messed up lately. </p><p></p><p>I will write young difficult child a letter sometime soon. I need to tell him that depressing letters to me are not the answer. I need to tell him that he has work to do on himself....that he IS a man now and it is time to grow up and take full responsibility for his choices. </p><p></p><p>As much as I'd like to blame Addiction and Bipolar for his behavior...I know that's not good enough. He knows right from wrong and he must learn to Stop and Think before acting. There is no excuse. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again for the gentle even cynical reminders of manipulation. You guys are very good at spotting it and I knew I'd here it "straight" from you all. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 448964, member: 3305"] Thank you all for the thoughtful and caring and even "blunt" responses... As it turns out...my daughter in law realized that she has an unpaid speeding ticket and a Warrant out for her arrest! UHG. She figured if we went up to the jail and showed them ID that they might arrest her on the spot. Soooo...no visit last night. Those of you who suggest this is emotional manipulation are likely right. There is no doubt that young difficult child is a master when it comes to feelings. I think it's how Bipolar Disorder manifests itself in young difficult child...He has always been highly sensitive and over-reactive and knows how to get to Most of the females in his life...doesn't "work" on husband so much or even big brother. I am thinking about what you all have said. I don't think it would be wise for me to visit him based on my own mental health issues. As you all may be aware, I had a psychotic breakdown after many panic attacks when oldest difficult child was in jail and then prison. I can't go through that again. The Dr's even told my mom and husband that "bringing me back" would be harder the next time...if that happend to me again. One of the reasons I "was" going to go with daughter in law is because she has no one else that will I believe...and it's a fairly disturbing County Jail to visit. In fact young difficult child used to go with me when I visited oldest difficult child there...LOL, he was my "bodyguard". And daughter in law is an attractive young thing and I don't want her to have to deal with passerby's etc. But... I think I will tell daughter in law that I simply cannot go...that she'll HAVE to find someone else to go with her as I have to look out for my own sanity. husband and I went out to dinner last night on a Gift Certificate that my mom got husband and I for our Anniversary which was Monday. Unfortunately husband had to work late Monday so we were not able to celebrate. I was out of medications for almost 3 days but one of the young adults (there are 2 that aren't ours that live with us at the moment) went to the pharmacy and picked up my medications for me yesterday...So, I'm back on track. I was able to sleep better last night but still woke up at around 4 this morning. My hours have been really messed up lately. I will write young difficult child a letter sometime soon. I need to tell him that depressing letters to me are not the answer. I need to tell him that he has work to do on himself....that he IS a man now and it is time to grow up and take full responsibility for his choices. As much as I'd like to blame Addiction and Bipolar for his behavior...I know that's not good enough. He knows right from wrong and he must learn to Stop and Think before acting. There is no excuse. Thanks again for the gentle even cynical reminders of manipulation. You guys are very good at spotting it and I knew I'd here it "straight" from you all. LMS [/QUOTE]
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