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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 753425" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Wise, she is living with you so I am sure that makes a difference, but I would not get that involved in my daughter's mental health care or medications if this were me. I know myself. I would think that In the end, once she is out of the house, your daughter will take benzos if she wants. She may even rebel against your wishes just to spite you and hide her benzo bottle and take it. Benzos are cheap.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, I have no first hand experience. Kay refused all therapy and drove her own car. I never paid for therapy or had to drive her places.</p><p></p><p> Okay, so we stupidly bought her cars....not smart at all, in retrospect. But at least we were not overly involved in every aspect of her life. And that was good since she was making both of us sick. Literally. The housing and cars cost us so much and made her more entitled, but we did get a break from her! And we needed one. If she had lived with us, I don't know if either of us would still be alive.</p><p></p><p>It is not really in my or my husband's nature to respond to nastiness so we would probably ignore nasty retorts. I know we did with Kay. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt, but it didn't give her ammo to add to her nastiness. I believe that less is more. Kay never heard smart advice anyway.</p><p></p><p>If there is any way to get her out of the house, maybe that would be best? I would have hated being Kay's jailer and Target of abuse.</p><p></p><p>Wise, pray a lot and work on the steps. I go back to Step 3 a lot! Hugs and do take care of yourself. Please don't let this child affect your health. Remember that God is watching all of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 753425, member: 23706"] Wise, she is living with you so I am sure that makes a difference, but I would not get that involved in my daughter's mental health care or medications if this were me. I know myself. I would think that In the end, once she is out of the house, your daughter will take benzos if she wants. She may even rebel against your wishes just to spite you and hide her benzo bottle and take it. Benzos are cheap. On the other hand, I have no first hand experience. Kay refused all therapy and drove her own car. I never paid for therapy or had to drive her places. Okay, so we stupidly bought her cars....not smart at all, in retrospect. But at least we were not overly involved in every aspect of her life. And that was good since she was making both of us sick. Literally. The housing and cars cost us so much and made her more entitled, but we did get a break from her! And we needed one. If she had lived with us, I don't know if either of us would still be alive. It is not really in my or my husband's nature to respond to nastiness so we would probably ignore nasty retorts. I know we did with Kay. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt, but it didn't give her ammo to add to her nastiness. I believe that less is more. Kay never heard smart advice anyway. If there is any way to get her out of the house, maybe that would be best? I would have hated being Kay's jailer and Target of abuse. Wise, pray a lot and work on the steps. I go back to Step 3 a lot! Hugs and do take care of yourself. Please don't let this child affect your health. Remember that God is watching all of you. [/QUOTE]
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