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Prodigal Son Returns Minus the Humble Part
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<blockquote data-quote="Mirabelle" data-source="post: 762461" data-attributes="member: 28712"><p>Thank you so much for your response and advice Copa. I was initially unable to access the article link that you posted but just now cracked it. So true, and affirming actually. My husband and I have been in agreement that we will not put ourselves up for any kind of abuse from his son eg. personal, financial, or otherwise. We won't allow him to jeopardize our safety or the security of our home by having him live with us. But we are committed to remaining in his life. We never want him to feel alone or unloved.</p><p></p><p>Last week, he was kicked out of the motel he was staying in. Against my husband's advice, he had allowed a friend he made there to hang out in his room. The 'friend' decided to entertain some known prostitutes. Friend and prostitutes were arrested after the hotel manager called the police. Stepson avoided this because he was not on the premises at the time but returned to his room only to find he'd been locked out and evicted.</p><p></p><p>He called my husband crying. Was upset when my husband took him to a homeless shelter rather than allowing him to stay with us. Said we couldn't put him a shelter because he would only use drugs and that would be on us. My husband said he knew that his son was doing drugs at the hotel, and that if he lived with us, he would only do them at our house as well. </p><p></p><p>After a few nights at the shelter, he says he is doing ok. My husband makes the hour round trip twice a week to check in with him and take him to eat. He is of course using drugs but he has food and shelter and that is a win for us right now.</p><p></p><p>We have certainly struggled with the helping / not helping tug of war, and will continue to. But I look forward to researching the Harm Reduction approach a lot more and hope it will help us along. Thank you so much again for the support Copa.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/angel.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":angel:" title="angel :angel:" data-shortname=":angel:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mirabelle, post: 762461, member: 28712"] Thank you so much for your response and advice Copa. I was initially unable to access the article link that you posted but just now cracked it. So true, and affirming actually. My husband and I have been in agreement that we will not put ourselves up for any kind of abuse from his son eg. personal, financial, or otherwise. We won't allow him to jeopardize our safety or the security of our home by having him live with us. But we are committed to remaining in his life. We never want him to feel alone or unloved. Last week, he was kicked out of the motel he was staying in. Against my husband's advice, he had allowed a friend he made there to hang out in his room. The 'friend' decided to entertain some known prostitutes. Friend and prostitutes were arrested after the hotel manager called the police. Stepson avoided this because he was not on the premises at the time but returned to his room only to find he'd been locked out and evicted. He called my husband crying. Was upset when my husband took him to a homeless shelter rather than allowing him to stay with us. Said we couldn't put him a shelter because he would only use drugs and that would be on us. My husband said he knew that his son was doing drugs at the hotel, and that if he lived with us, he would only do them at our house as well. After a few nights at the shelter, he says he is doing ok. My husband makes the hour round trip twice a week to check in with him and take him to eat. He is of course using drugs but he has food and shelter and that is a win for us right now. We have certainly struggled with the helping / not helping tug of war, and will continue to. But I look forward to researching the Harm Reduction approach a lot more and hope it will help us along. Thank you so much again for the support Copa.:angel: [/QUOTE]
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