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Put the detachment in motion - and the gaslighting begins.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 699429" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi McDonna, Welcome!</p><p></p><p></p><p>She is claiming that your parenting left her with severe damage, if that were true then why in the world would she reach out to you. She says that she is forced to work through it. Forced by who?</p><p>Here's the thing, no one on this planet had a "perfect" childhood and while it's easy to blame the parents or someone else we all get to be an adult and at that point we get to choose how we will live our lives. You are right, your daughter is gas lighting you. I'm glad you are not buying into it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Well Hallelujah!! She says it right here that she's dealing with her own issues. That being said, she has no reason to ask you for anything.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Here again, she says she will find a way out of her situation. Very typical of a difficult child to say such mean and hurtful things.</p><p></p><p>As for you responding to her, if it were me, no way! It would be my guess that she's counting on you responding. It's a game our difficult kids will play; say mean and hurtful things to our parents to make them feel bad and tell them we want nothing to do with them. They are counting on us to feel guilty and worry about not seeing or hearing from them again. They are counting on our emotions to break and then we the parents will give into their demands.</p><p></p><p>It's good to distract yourself at times like these. Go out and do something for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how things go.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 699429, member: 18516"] Hi McDonna, Welcome! She is claiming that your parenting left her with severe damage, if that were true then why in the world would she reach out to you. She says that she is forced to work through it. Forced by who? Here's the thing, no one on this planet had a "perfect" childhood and while it's easy to blame the parents or someone else we all get to be an adult and at that point we get to choose how we will live our lives. You are right, your daughter is gas lighting you. I'm glad you are not buying into it. Well Hallelujah!! She says it right here that she's dealing with her own issues. That being said, she has no reason to ask you for anything. Here again, she says she will find a way out of her situation. Very typical of a difficult child to say such mean and hurtful things. As for you responding to her, if it were me, no way! It would be my guess that she's counting on you responding. It's a game our difficult kids will play; say mean and hurtful things to our parents to make them feel bad and tell them we want nothing to do with them. They are counting on us to feel guilty and worry about not seeing or hearing from them again. They are counting on our emotions to break and then we the parents will give into their demands. It's good to distract yourself at times like these. Go out and do something for yourself. Let us know how things go. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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