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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 765570" data-attributes="member: 12511">Nandina, we have not instigated guardianship, because his father is in the picture. He lives in a nearby town (15 minutes away) and has had Alex every other weekend for almost two years. He has been working for 2+ years and is now paying some child support, ordered by the court. He does not have a good past history, but now seems to be doing 180 degree turn. The court would probably place great grandson with him.  If granddaughter would sign form on her own, it would preserve her rights, and not take anything away from him, and would be reviewed in 6 months and the judge could extend or terminate the guardianship.A year ago, (when she was first in jail) the dad's parents were pushing him not to return Alex after a weekend visit.  They have no court ordered visitation agreement. And either could keep him from the other parent and they would have to go to court. Police will only remove a child if the other parent is breaking a court ordered visitation.We talked to his dad and told him we understood. They were afraid if his mom got picked up again that Alex could be removed from her. They were living with us at that time then too. I told him if Alex was ever removed the authorities would immediately look at him for his placement. And I said I hoped if Alex is ever removed we can do it slowly and not just removing from what he's used to for so long. And he agreed it would not be in his sons best interest to remove him from us for a long period of time.So we are in a catch 22... There is no court order on visitation, all we have is a form that we can seek medical treatment for him.  I think my granddaughter has brain issues from meth. Two and a half years ago when we moved her into our home she was in a psychotic break. She had bizarre beliefs in her powers to control things with her mind. She wouldn't talk out loud inside our house because she thought people could hear her. She would write questions on paper and I would have to write back. Because she didn't want people to hear me. She thought she kept the city safe all night long with her brain powers. This got better in two or three months. But I don't think she's completely better. She is very forgetful. Doesn't have a good idea of time frames. Sometimes she would text and say she was coming to pick up Alex and I would text back it's 8:00 at night and he has preschool tomorrow! It's like she doesn't know what day or what happens the next morning.She has made appointments for therapy and also to see her family physician and her OBGYN, but she never remembers to go. I usually text her to remind her and even that doesn't help because she'll forget to charge her phone. She will complain that we overstepped our boundaries by taking Alex to appointments when it should have been her. And I tell her check your phone you could have done it! Ksm</blockquote>

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