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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749292" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome Starshine. I wanted to say hi and to respond briefly. I will return later when there is more time. I am so very sorry this is happening. I hope that there is news soon from your son, and that he finds a place to stabilize and to receive help</p><p></p><p>Nobody could cope with a story like this. Everybody and anybody with a heart would be devastated and in pain, worried sick. We would all be like you, lost, stunned, and not knowing where to turn and what to do. I think this is a normal and natural response to these circumstances.</p><p></p><p>I am glad that you found us. I believe that posting here is one way to find clarity and direction. By posting we put into writing what you feel and think, and you are able to build strength and endurance. For me it has been enormously helpful.</p><p></p><p>Right now as I see it you can do little if anything for your son. He will likely run into authorities one way or another either hospitalized or picked up. And if this happens there is the possibility of treatment. That his son was taken, while horrible for your son, was likely the best for the child, as you are aware.</p><p></p><p>The reality is that over your son's situation and your grandchild's you have no control. Great worry and agony, but no control. And this is what all of us here have in common and what brings us together. Right now is the time to get support. Whether through a 12 step group, a therapist, a spiritual community, or being with friends, like the people here, who understand. We do have control over what we do to find support and to center ourselves in our own lives. </p><p></p><p>The thing that might help is to remember that this is one moment in time. Your son is at his worst. We have no way to know what will come next. There are all kinds of services available for adults in crisis, depending upon where you live. Everywhere has recovery programs, short and long term. Right now son is disoriented, destabilized and fearful. This is what happens to people on the street who are mentally ill. My son is mentally ill and homeless, too. And in my work I worked with men and women in these circumstances. There is always a place to come in from the cold. Most people do. </p><p></p><p>The hard part for us as parents is that we put ourselves out there with them, mentally. We do not have to go there. It does not help. A kinder choice is to try to find solace. So that we are better equipped to better cope.</p><p></p><p>Others will be along soon. Weekends are usually slower.</p><p></p><p>Welcome. Please be kind to yourself today. I will try too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749292, member: 18958"] Welcome Starshine. I wanted to say hi and to respond briefly. I will return later when there is more time. I am so very sorry this is happening. I hope that there is news soon from your son, and that he finds a place to stabilize and to receive help Nobody could cope with a story like this. Everybody and anybody with a heart would be devastated and in pain, worried sick. We would all be like you, lost, stunned, and not knowing where to turn and what to do. I think this is a normal and natural response to these circumstances. I am glad that you found us. I believe that posting here is one way to find clarity and direction. By posting we put into writing what you feel and think, and you are able to build strength and endurance. For me it has been enormously helpful. Right now as I see it you can do little if anything for your son. He will likely run into authorities one way or another either hospitalized or picked up. And if this happens there is the possibility of treatment. That his son was taken, while horrible for your son, was likely the best for the child, as you are aware. The reality is that over your son's situation and your grandchild's you have no control. Great worry and agony, but no control. And this is what all of us here have in common and what brings us together. Right now is the time to get support. Whether through a 12 step group, a therapist, a spiritual community, or being with friends, like the people here, who understand. We do have control over what we do to find support and to center ourselves in our own lives. The thing that might help is to remember that this is one moment in time. Your son is at his worst. We have no way to know what will come next. There are all kinds of services available for adults in crisis, depending upon where you live. Everywhere has recovery programs, short and long term. Right now son is disoriented, destabilized and fearful. This is what happens to people on the street who are mentally ill. My son is mentally ill and homeless, too. And in my work I worked with men and women in these circumstances. There is always a place to come in from the cold. Most people do. The hard part for us as parents is that we put ourselves out there with them, mentally. We do not have to go there. It does not help. A kinder choice is to try to find solace. So that we are better equipped to better cope. Others will be along soon. Weekends are usually slower. Welcome. Please be kind to yourself today. I will try too. [/QUOTE]
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