So true MWM, that how we define the thing determines what it means to us. I think you are right too, in believing we can change the habit of defining things in a certain way. (Like the traffic example you used.) Eckhardt Tolle said something like this in The Power of Now. He said to pretend everything that happens has happened exactly as you wanted it to.
No energy wasted on resentment, or on stupid anger that accomplishes nothing.
I did not know there was a name for this kind of thinking.
Thank you for posting.
I will try to find more information on this.
Cedar
