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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 682370" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa, yes, I prepared my son for adulthood. Copa, you did not know my son. He was always different, but does better every year.</p><p></p><p>Now this may sound odd, but by setting my son up with supports and ssi, he has actually thrived and almost uses no supports at all. He does nearly everything hinself, makes excellent life choices and works very hard. His social skills have leapt ahead. This is a child who started off so angry and delayed that nobody would adopt him. We werent even completely licensed yet but we were his only chance. We took it (and none of us slept or took him shopping for three years...haha.)</p><p></p><p>In sonics case we got him very early interventions and Special Education and focused on life functionality and each year he got better and better so we kept it up because it was working. Dramatically. By age ten he was ahead of all academic expectations for him, had a kind disposition, did not rebel or disobey and he never went downhill. He continues to improve drastcally each year.</p><p></p><p>I am his guardian but am thinking he doesnt need one much anymore. He still can not manage his money and wants to keep a payee. This is his measured decision. He is aware of his many strengths and challenges and makes his own decisions.</p><p></p><p>Copa, sonic and I have an unusual type of bond...both of us have challenges. I was fortunate to just seem to instinctively know what sonic needed to become a successful member of society. He has exceeded all expectations. I feel very confident that our decisions for this young man were spot on. I know he loves and appreciates us too and, best of all, he likes himself.</p><p></p><p>I did not do this spot on with all my kids. You know this. I made mistakes with princess that make me feel really badly...moved a shy, insecure middle school girl to a new state and school and after a divorce...stupid me! Shame on me! So trust me I do not feel like a great parent but I meant well, was loving and never did call my kids nasty names or demeaned them. I did better...much...than my own mom. You did too, copa.</p><p></p><p>Each child, I have found, is different. None come with a manuel. You did your very best based on what you knew about your son. I tried to do my best as well. We all did and do.</p><p></p><p>Somebody needs to write that dang parenting manuel...lol <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Love to all the caring mothers who read this. This means YOU.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 682370, member: 1550"] Copa, yes, I prepared my son for adulthood. Copa, you did not know my son. He was always different, but does better every year. Now this may sound odd, but by setting my son up with supports and ssi, he has actually thrived and almost uses no supports at all. He does nearly everything hinself, makes excellent life choices and works very hard. His social skills have leapt ahead. This is a child who started off so angry and delayed that nobody would adopt him. We werent even completely licensed yet but we were his only chance. We took it (and none of us slept or took him shopping for three years...haha.) In sonics case we got him very early interventions and Special Education and focused on life functionality and each year he got better and better so we kept it up because it was working. Dramatically. By age ten he was ahead of all academic expectations for him, had a kind disposition, did not rebel or disobey and he never went downhill. He continues to improve drastcally each year. I am his guardian but am thinking he doesnt need one much anymore. He still can not manage his money and wants to keep a payee. This is his measured decision. He is aware of his many strengths and challenges and makes his own decisions. Copa, sonic and I have an unusual type of bond...both of us have challenges. I was fortunate to just seem to instinctively know what sonic needed to become a successful member of society. He has exceeded all expectations. I feel very confident that our decisions for this young man were spot on. I know he loves and appreciates us too and, best of all, he likes himself. I did not do this spot on with all my kids. You know this. I made mistakes with princess that make me feel really badly...moved a shy, insecure middle school girl to a new state and school and after a divorce...stupid me! Shame on me! So trust me I do not feel like a great parent but I meant well, was loving and never did call my kids nasty names or demeaned them. I did better...much...than my own mom. You did too, copa. Each child, I have found, is different. None come with a manuel. You did your very best based on what you knew about your son. I tried to do my best as well. We all did and do. Somebody needs to write that dang parenting manuel...lol ;) Love to all the caring mothers who read this. This means YOU. [/QUOTE]
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