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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 732599" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I do not think there is a clicque. I used to but most of the people have gone.</p><p></p><p>I do believe there are support systems which I think is natural. What do I mean by that? Parents who feel very very supported by several people and in turn support them back.</p><p></p><p>For example, I got a whole lot of support from little boy lost. She read all my threads and many posts. Every single thing I typed, even if it was a moan or sigh, she rated. And I did it right back. I wanted her to feel loved. And not alone. I wanted to show her my gratitude.</p><p></p><p>Our stories had similarities and our needs were similar too. I must say she is way stronger than I but she reached out a lot, many times a day. Wow. Did my ratings go up.</p><p></p><p>But I perceived them as hugs, or atta boy. Not exclusionary, or preferential. Or a measure of whether posts are better.</p><p></p><p>Actually. When I start feeling any sense of specialness based on internet ratings, I feel very very pathetic.</p><p></p><p>There are a dozen members or so at any given time who day in and day out read and respond to many threads. They dig into the weeds and do their best to follow stories, tell the truth, share experience and give a great deal of support. Intimacy and trust develops. Ratings are a less than satisfactory way of acknowledging this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 732599, member: 18958"] I do not think there is a clicque. I used to but most of the people have gone. I do believe there are support systems which I think is natural. What do I mean by that? Parents who feel very very supported by several people and in turn support them back. For example, I got a whole lot of support from little boy lost. She read all my threads and many posts. Every single thing I typed, even if it was a moan or sigh, she rated. And I did it right back. I wanted her to feel loved. And not alone. I wanted to show her my gratitude. Our stories had similarities and our needs were similar too. I must say she is way stronger than I but she reached out a lot, many times a day. Wow. Did my ratings go up. But I perceived them as hugs, or atta boy. Not exclusionary, or preferential. Or a measure of whether posts are better. Actually. When I start feeling any sense of specialness based on internet ratings, I feel very very pathetic. There are a dozen members or so at any given time who day in and day out read and respond to many threads. They dig into the weeds and do their best to follow stories, tell the truth, share experience and give a great deal of support. Intimacy and trust develops. Ratings are a less than satisfactory way of acknowledging this. [/QUOTE]
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