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Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child's teacher doesn't believe us
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 723169" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Do NOT ask for things in meetings. It does no good to ask in person, even at meetings. You have no proof it was asked for. Even if you have audiotape or video of the meeting, it isn't proof in a court. You have to write a letter asking for an IEP evaluation with FBA and Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation and anything else you want. You then have to mail it to the school by certified mail, return receipt requested (signature required). This is the proof that a court of law will accept. I know a lawyer who deals with these cases and she says that the courts often just don't even want to deal with audio or video proof of requests, it is easier if they are on paper. Email is too easy to fake, so that isn't accepted.</p><p></p><p>By sending the request this way, by mail with the bells and whistles, you have a receipt that someone had to sign the day they received it. The school has a set number of days, I think 45 days from that day, to get the evaluations done. Not school days, days period. Many schools try to claim it is school days, or days they are actually in school (not holidays or teacher days, which could extend it by a huge amount). This also gives your daughter the full protections of an IEP while she is being evaluated. This means she cannot be suspended more than 10 times or for more than 10 days without a placement review. You are aware she has the right to FAPE in LRE, and what that means, aren't you? All that alphabet soup means is that your daughter has the right to a free and appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment. </p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest you start educating yourself about IEPs. How to write one, what a good one contains, what a bad one contains, how to tell the difference, how to object to what the school wants to put in her IEP, etc.... Be sure you never let them see you sweat in an IEP meeting. It will be you, or you and your husband against all of the teachers and the school's experts and their district people. I was once the only person on "my side" and the school had 18 people at the meeting. They were definitely all against every single thing I asked for. They just wanted some way to make my son fit into their cookie cutter mold. They ended up giving me everything I asked for. I was frustrated quite a few of them, but I really did not care. Later when they tried to not follow the IEP, I reminded them that it was enforceable by law. </p><p></p><p>If you can, get your daughter to a neuropsychologist for testing for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), or to someone you trust for a formal diagnosis. It will make your dealings with the school far easier. I am sure you know what therapies will be helpful. Although it is probably very different to live with a person with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) than to treat a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Be very careful because kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) can be very very dangerous to other children and to pets in the household. We have had MANY people come here over the years after their stepchild or partner's child or adopted child or grandchild with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) hurt, tortured or killed their pet or even hurt or tortured their children. Or burned down their home or otherwise destroyed their property and lives. I truly believe that if you did not have full disclosure before the adoption, you may have grounds to disrupt it. I know you love the child, but she may not be able to live in a home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 723169, member: 1233"] Do NOT ask for things in meetings. It does no good to ask in person, even at meetings. You have no proof it was asked for. Even if you have audiotape or video of the meeting, it isn't proof in a court. You have to write a letter asking for an IEP evaluation with FBA and Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation and anything else you want. You then have to mail it to the school by certified mail, return receipt requested (signature required). This is the proof that a court of law will accept. I know a lawyer who deals with these cases and she says that the courts often just don't even want to deal with audio or video proof of requests, it is easier if they are on paper. Email is too easy to fake, so that isn't accepted. By sending the request this way, by mail with the bells and whistles, you have a receipt that someone had to sign the day they received it. The school has a set number of days, I think 45 days from that day, to get the evaluations done. Not school days, days period. Many schools try to claim it is school days, or days they are actually in school (not holidays or teacher days, which could extend it by a huge amount). This also gives your daughter the full protections of an IEP while she is being evaluated. This means she cannot be suspended more than 10 times or for more than 10 days without a placement review. You are aware she has the right to FAPE in LRE, and what that means, aren't you? All that alphabet soup means is that your daughter has the right to a free and appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment. I strongly suggest you start educating yourself about IEPs. How to write one, what a good one contains, what a bad one contains, how to tell the difference, how to object to what the school wants to put in her IEP, etc.... Be sure you never let them see you sweat in an IEP meeting. It will be you, or you and your husband against all of the teachers and the school's experts and their district people. I was once the only person on "my side" and the school had 18 people at the meeting. They were definitely all against every single thing I asked for. They just wanted some way to make my son fit into their cookie cutter mold. They ended up giving me everything I asked for. I was frustrated quite a few of them, but I really did not care. Later when they tried to not follow the IEP, I reminded them that it was enforceable by law. If you can, get your daughter to a neuropsychologist for testing for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), or to someone you trust for a formal diagnosis. It will make your dealings with the school far easier. I am sure you know what therapies will be helpful. Although it is probably very different to live with a person with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) than to treat a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Be very careful because kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) can be very very dangerous to other children and to pets in the household. We have had MANY people come here over the years after their stepchild or partner's child or adopted child or grandchild with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) hurt, tortured or killed their pet or even hurt or tortured their children. Or burned down their home or otherwise destroyed their property and lives. I truly believe that if you did not have full disclosure before the adoption, you may have grounds to disrupt it. I know you love the child, but she may not be able to live in a home. [/QUOTE]
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