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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766504" data-attributes="member: 18958">I don't know how come this above quote is here. It just showed up. If I am honest, it irritates me. Talk about futile. Nobody can turn back the hands of time. Not one of us, in reality, can live our dreams. (I am irritated too about so much of the Palisades fire narrative. The self-pity that they've lost their dream life.The entitlement. Let me get out my violin. I am in a bad mood.&nbsp; Love cannot save. Only work can save. All of us are in the rowboat (going round and round) with our oars of love, trying to save. It never ever works. End of rant.)I am with your older sister in this. Not that you asked. Rain needs to be in supportive short-term housing for medically fragile people. I live in a small, backward California County. We have this. I am certain you guys have it. Rain will not work as long as she is with you. She will do as she is doing, which is sleep and leave her dirty dishes for you, and prowl the house in the night. Oh. It's not that i don't have empathy. I do. It just will not work for you or for her.Very strongly I believe you need to very explicitly and continuously talk about her next steps.&nbsp; And take them.&nbsp; You are in no position New Leaf to create, establish and maintain a medically fragile supportive housing set up. I need not remind you of what you have recently emerged from.OKay. Let me soften up a bit. I am so very glad she is NOT USING. She can save herself now and live. Let her go to her next steps which are to walk outside your house into a situation where she can rebuild her life. New Leaf. You need rest, respite, protection, safety. So does your granddaughter. You know this. Love, Copa</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766504, member: 18958"] I don't know how come this above quote is here. It just showed up. If I am honest, it irritates me. Talk about futile. Nobody can turn back the hands of time. Not one of us, in reality, can live our dreams. (I am irritated too about so much of the Palisades fire narrative. The self-pity that they've lost their dream life.The entitlement. Let me get out my violin. I am in a bad mood. Love cannot save. Only work can save. All of us are in the rowboat (going round and round) with our oars of love, trying to save. It never ever works. End of rant.) I am with your older sister in this. Not that you asked. Rain needs to be in supportive short-term housing for medically fragile people. I live in a small, backward California County. We have this. I am certain you guys have it. Rain will not work as long as she is with you. She will do as she is doing, which is sleep and leave her dirty dishes for you, and prowl the house in the night. Oh. It's not that i don't have empathy. I do. It just will not work for you or for her. Very strongly I believe you need to very explicitly and continuously talk about her next steps. And take them. You are in no position New Leaf to create, establish and maintain a medically fragile supportive housing set up. I need not remind you of what you have recently emerged from. OKay. Let me soften up a bit. I am so very glad she is NOT USING. She can save herself now and live. Let her go to her next steps which are to walk outside your house into a situation where she can rebuild her life. New Leaf. You need rest, respite, protection, safety. So does your granddaughter. You know this. Love, Copa [/QUOTE]

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