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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766512" data-attributes="member: 18958">I don't think you did one thing wrong. Especially in terms of your own welfare and well-being. If Rain continues down this road she may die.&nbsp; If the worst happens you will know that you opened your heart and your home.She chose to violate it. Because sure enough, she did. On various levels. I believe she invited Mumbles. And then she makes you the bad guy. As if the whole problem here is your middle-class values and &quot;have&quot; mentality--totally deflecting her own responsibility that she has congestive heart failure and kidney disease; that her life choices are killing her.&nbsp; She could not accept your love with reciprocity. That fills me with sadness. But you did the right thing. I think so. Every step of the way.We did the same thing with my son. We invited him back without conditions. Only he pay money towards utility costs, not smoke or use drugs in the apartment where he stayed. He did not adhere to any of these agreements. And he disabled all the smoke alarms. And left a bunch of marijuana in the garbage can outside. (How dumb can he be?) Am I sorry? Not one bit.I want him to know he is loved. And that I will go 100% if he tries. He didn't.I did it for myself.&nbsp; I am at peace.I can't tell you how to feel, but I hope you feel good. About you. You love her 100%. You opened to her 100%.&nbsp; You opened your home to her, 100%. If she can't love herself, what can you do? You did the absolute right thing.Our helping them may not help, but you did this because you love your daughter. That's why.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766512, member: 18958"] I don't think you did one thing wrong. Especially in terms of your own welfare and well-being. If Rain continues down this road she may die. If the worst happens you will know that you opened your heart and your home. She chose to violate it. Because sure enough, she did. On various levels. I believe she invited Mumbles. And then she makes you the bad guy. As if the whole problem here is your middle-class values and "have" mentality--totally deflecting her own responsibility that she has congestive heart failure and kidney disease; that her life choices are killing her. She could not accept your love with reciprocity. That fills me with sadness. But you did the right thing. I think so. Every step of the way. We did the same thing with my son. We invited him back without conditions. Only he pay money towards utility costs, not smoke or use drugs in the apartment where he stayed. He did not adhere to any of these agreements. And he disabled all the smoke alarms. And left a bunch of marijuana in the garbage can outside. (How dumb can he be?) Am I sorry? Not one bit. I want him to know he is loved. And that I will go 100% if he tries. He didn't. I did it for myself. I am at peace. I can't tell you how to feel, but I hope you feel good. About you. You love her 100%. You opened to her 100%. You opened your home to her, 100%. If she can't love herself, what can you do? You did the absolute right thing. Our helping them may not help, but you did this because you love your daughter. That's why. [/QUOTE]

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