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<blockquote data-quote="in a daze" data-source="post: 729887" data-attributes="member: 15832"><p>Hi everyone. No drunk drama from D.C. for past three weeks. I am not optimistic that this will continue. But that's ok. Because I am starting to be done with all this.</p><p></p><p>He's not working a program. He's not going to therapy. He talked about signing up for a support group at Second City for social anxiety ( he had done Improv for social anxiety a few years ago.) the deadline for signing up has probably come and gone. I'm not reminding him. Because I'm kind of done.</p><p></p><p>I say kind of, because he does do some things. He takes his medicine. And he doesn't ask us for money. And he deals with a crisis ( lost wallet, CVS won't refill his medications, work problems, etc.) and we hear about it later, instead of him calling us expecting us to solve the problem, which he used to do. And he does manage to hang on to his part time job ( workplace hires disabled people, though he was not hired as disabled, but they must know he has issues)</p><p></p><p>So that's good. But it's been 15 years of psychiatrists, therapists, rehabs, hospitalizations, intensive outpatient programs. Not to mention parental support. Not to mention Special Education and tutors in grammar and high school. Oh , and a college education. Managed to earn a bachelors degree. (Although turned down disability services in college. We did hire a math tutor for alegebra and stats, but the rest he managed to get through himself. He's very intellectual and an excellent researcher and writer. Although it took him 7 years. But at least we don't have to listen to "if I only had my college degree...)</p><p></p><p>Because you have your friggin college degree and you're not even working full time ( listen, we wouldn't have sent him, further than an AA degree, but he would get A's and compliments from professors on his papers, so we thought he had potential)</p><p></p><p>I have come to the realization that this is the best that it's going to be. We were hoping for a self supporting adult, but it is not to be. He has major depression, a non verbal learning disability, addiction problems, social anxiety, and severe adhd that can't be medicated because of his addiction problems ( and it never helped him very much anyway)</p><p></p><p>I will not convey this to D.C., in case some miracle happens and he has some epiphany and starts going to therapy and working full time and gets a life etc. I will continue to be neutral, subtle, and supportive. </p><p></p><p>I have a really nice husband. He's a great guy. He's secretly devastated about son. He wants to have a better relationship with him. Son is guarded with him because husband refused to enable him when he was living here. </p><p></p><p>We have a lovely daughter. She has a good job and has nice friends and a really nice boyfriend. She is the smartest 29 year old I know, especially when I talk to her about her brother. I feel better after I talk to her. </p><p></p><p>I was about to go on antidepressants last week. Three weeks ago, I went to my doctor and got a prescription for xanax. This week, I'm much better. I don't know why. </p><p></p><p>Maybe it's because I have a lot to be grateful for, despite D.C.</p><p></p><p>And I have all you guys to lean on, and listen to me vent. Thank you all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="in a daze, post: 729887, member: 15832"] Hi everyone. No drunk drama from D.C. for past three weeks. I am not optimistic that this will continue. But that's ok. Because I am starting to be done with all this. He's not working a program. He's not going to therapy. He talked about signing up for a support group at Second City for social anxiety ( he had done Improv for social anxiety a few years ago.) the deadline for signing up has probably come and gone. I'm not reminding him. Because I'm kind of done. I say kind of, because he does do some things. He takes his medicine. And he doesn't ask us for money. And he deals with a crisis ( lost wallet, CVS won't refill his medications, work problems, etc.) and we hear about it later, instead of him calling us expecting us to solve the problem, which he used to do. And he does manage to hang on to his part time job ( workplace hires disabled people, though he was not hired as disabled, but they must know he has issues) So that's good. But it's been 15 years of psychiatrists, therapists, rehabs, hospitalizations, intensive outpatient programs. Not to mention parental support. Not to mention Special Education and tutors in grammar and high school. Oh , and a college education. Managed to earn a bachelors degree. (Although turned down disability services in college. We did hire a math tutor for alegebra and stats, but the rest he managed to get through himself. He's very intellectual and an excellent researcher and writer. Although it took him 7 years. But at least we don't have to listen to "if I only had my college degree...) Because you have your friggin college degree and you're not even working full time ( listen, we wouldn't have sent him, further than an AA degree, but he would get A's and compliments from professors on his papers, so we thought he had potential) I have come to the realization that this is the best that it's going to be. We were hoping for a self supporting adult, but it is not to be. He has major depression, a non verbal learning disability, addiction problems, social anxiety, and severe adhd that can't be medicated because of his addiction problems ( and it never helped him very much anyway) I will not convey this to D.C., in case some miracle happens and he has some epiphany and starts going to therapy and working full time and gets a life etc. I will continue to be neutral, subtle, and supportive. I have a really nice husband. He's a great guy. He's secretly devastated about son. He wants to have a better relationship with him. Son is guarded with him because husband refused to enable him when he was living here. We have a lovely daughter. She has a good job and has nice friends and a really nice boyfriend. She is the smartest 29 year old I know, especially when I talk to her about her brother. I feel better after I talk to her. I was about to go on antidepressants last week. Three weeks ago, I went to my doctor and got a prescription for xanax. This week, I'm much better. I don't know why. Maybe it's because I have a lot to be grateful for, despite D.C. And I have all you guys to lean on, and listen to me vent. Thank you all. [/QUOTE]
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