I gave up on holiday expectations. My focus is on giving myself something that makes me happy, something that makes my youngest happy and having a quiet, peaceful day. That means a roast chicken or turkey with just a couple of our favorite trimmings for food. And if there should be a couple of chocolate bars in the house.... if my older two show up in some way they get what's here, no more big dinners getting cold, expensive gifts when they show up with something they spent $5 on on the way over, etc. Adjusted my expectations and I'm a lot happier.
