Bunny,
I'm sorry his grades are declining. I know what a worry that can be. My daughter, who always did really well in school started declining in high school. She blew a full scholarship to a local university (where she would have lived in the dorms). For her high school was extremely difficult because she was in with some not so good friends and when she realized this (aka-got burned by them) she went into a deep depression plus suffers from great anxiety. She ended up going to an alternative high school. After high school she took a gap year and then went to the local tech college for 2 1/2 years. She just went away to college in January. She is 21! There were times when I thought she was never going to move or do much. She even came out and told us she was afraid of growing up. She chose to go to therapy and it has helped a lot; she is learning to manage her anxiety and depression.
I do understand the need to want your son to move out. Hoping he will turn things around and you can find out why things are where they are at right now.
