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Resentful feelings for having an unperfect kid. (looooong, whiny and stupid post)
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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 536469" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I could relate to your post. Neither one of mine had the big graduation that people around here have.</p><p></p><p>I had hopes for the older difficult child. He was smart and was set to graduate until his behavior got him expelled two weeks before the end of school He had already told me he didn't want a party and I was unhappy about that but I figured I'd at least get to go see him graduate. They told him he could walk across the stage with the rest of the kids but he would get an unsigned diploma. He told them to f*** off. In fact, I was kinda proud of him for not going along with their foolishness because the did him wrong with the expulsion. Anyway, he went and took the test for his GED and got a perfect score and never looked back.</p><p>YOunger difficult child was not a good student and I don't think I ever had my hopes up for him to graduate. </p><p></p><p>Both difficult children are working and being responsible adults. I have seen that no graduation was not the end of the world for them or for me. I made the best of it and, like you, I'm proud of what they did accomplish but when I see other parents celebrating with their kids I still feel a pang. I try to remember that the one who feels bad is me, not them, and it is a little thing.</p><p></p><p>Maybe when he does graduate he will let you have a little celebration with just you and him. Go out to eat, go someplace fun, just to mark the occasion. Really, a lot of those parties is for impressing other people and by the time they have the 5 year class reunions, they won't remember who had a party and who didn't. </p><p></p><p>One think I've learned with 2 difficult children is to accept the good things and ignore the ones that didn't work out. It saves a lot of craziness on my part that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 536469, member: 135"] I could relate to your post. Neither one of mine had the big graduation that people around here have. I had hopes for the older difficult child. He was smart and was set to graduate until his behavior got him expelled two weeks before the end of school He had already told me he didn't want a party and I was unhappy about that but I figured I'd at least get to go see him graduate. They told him he could walk across the stage with the rest of the kids but he would get an unsigned diploma. He told them to f*** off. In fact, I was kinda proud of him for not going along with their foolishness because the did him wrong with the expulsion. Anyway, he went and took the test for his GED and got a perfect score and never looked back. YOunger difficult child was not a good student and I don't think I ever had my hopes up for him to graduate. Both difficult children are working and being responsible adults. I have seen that no graduation was not the end of the world for them or for me. I made the best of it and, like you, I'm proud of what they did accomplish but when I see other parents celebrating with their kids I still feel a pang. I try to remember that the one who feels bad is me, not them, and it is a little thing. Maybe when he does graduate he will let you have a little celebration with just you and him. Go out to eat, go someplace fun, just to mark the occasion. Really, a lot of those parties is for impressing other people and by the time they have the 5 year class reunions, they won't remember who had a party and who didn't. One think I've learned with 2 difficult children is to accept the good things and ignore the ones that didn't work out. It saves a lot of craziness on my part that way. [/QUOTE]
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