May I 1st say, please, if you are having chest pain, please, please go to the ER and have it checked out. Too many women ignore symptoms until it's too late.
I think you have to detach yourself from this situation somewhat, too. I think, maybe you need to be straight forward with the girlfriend and explain that she and your son are adults and responsible for themselves and anyone else they choose to bring into this world. That anything you choose to provide is a gift and not your responsibility.
