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<blockquote data-quote="Kat9" data-source="post: 766659" data-attributes="member: 34173"><p>You are living independently. Why would you trade independence and your own security to get in a sheet hole where they could manipulate you to do anything they want and jerk the rug out from under&nbsp; you? I think you’d end up being abused and used. You better drop this like a hot potato. They are well off. They have all the means to set up a trust to care for her and use resources available. if they won’t care for her the state will probably take over. The niece is also a drug addict and an adult so she is making bad choices. The drugs cause or exacerbate the schizo disorder. It’s just as much her fault as the parents. Stop making excuses for these people. Also check yourself to see if internally you get some stroking of the ego for being some kind of savior. Sometimes this can be a form of narcissism. You might need some counseling as to why you are enmeshed with someone in an unhealthy way. Why is she your favorite niece? Does the reality match your perception. I bet you if you detach from this her parents will step up to the plate. What I write sounds harsh and .i don’t mean to sound like some kind of attack. But sometimes what we perceive and what is reality are not the same thing, sometimes we see what we want the person to be rather than who they actually are. I let my daughter jerk me around until I figured out she’s never gonna be right and that I had to let go of dreams.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Kat9, post: 766659, member: 34173"] You are living independently. Why would you trade independence and your own security to get in a sheet hole where they could manipulate you to do anything they want and jerk the rug out from under you? I think you’d end up being abused and used. You better drop this like a hot potato. They are well off. They have all the means to set up a trust to care for her and use resources available. if they won’t care for her the state will probably take over. The niece is also a drug addict and an adult so she is making bad choices. The drugs cause or exacerbate the schizo disorder. It’s just as much her fault as the parents. Stop making excuses for these people. Also check yourself to see if internally you get some stroking of the ego for being some kind of savior. Sometimes this can be a form of narcissism. You might need some counseling as to why you are enmeshed with someone in an unhealthy way. Why is she your favorite niece? Does the reality match your perception. I bet you if you detach from this her parents will step up to the plate. What I write sounds harsh and .i don’t mean to sound like some kind of attack. But sometimes what we perceive and what is reality are not the same thing, sometimes we see what we want the person to be rather than who they actually are. I let my daughter jerk me around until I figured out she’s never gonna be right and that I had to let go of dreams. [/QUOTE]

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