Kathy I really hope my difficult child never has kids. She has a five year IUD now but I'm wishing we had done the 10 year one. I am terrified of her repeating this cycle. Hopefully she will decide on her own that children should not be in her future. At least we have this five year reprieve. My easy child is so against drinking because of what she has seen it do to people. She is very intollerant of it and of course she would have nothing to do with anyone who uses drugs. The addict certainyl does have a far reaching effect on those around her.
I use to look at people who chose not to have children and wonder why, and sometimes I would actually feel sorry for them. I now understand and applaud their well thought out decision. I have to say I would never ever adopt again and I would never recommend adopting to anyone else based on my experience. But my easy child has been such a pleasure that I would be hard to say I would never have kids again. I do think more extensive genetic counseling should be offered and addiction and mental illness history should be discussed along with the genetic predisposition involved.
I find it interesting that some want to require women to watch the heartbeat before an abortion but they don't require women to watch the destruction of a family due to addiction and mental illness that has been passed down.
Nancy
