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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739235" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Tired, I am so sorry for all the drama your son is putting you through. It’s always drama, isn’t it? I’m glad you’ve learned how to detach when you need to. </p><p></p><p>I hear you on the financial side, too. My partner and I are far from wealthy, but we have family on both sides who think we’re made of money just because we’re living a stable existence in a comfortable home. With no understanding that being careful with our money, working hard, putting aside funds for emergencies, and doing our own maintenance and repairs is what allows us to live our comfortable life. People who don’t plan for the future for themselves think every spare dollar you have is available for their latest emergency. It’s hard to say no, especially when kids are involved. But if we don’t protect our own resources we’ll get pulled down to the same place they are in. I also end up helping probably more than I should - but I’m careful not to give more than I can afford. I’m also careful not to talk about our finances with anybody - they don’t need to know how much we have in the bank, how much my business is bringing in, or where we plan to spend our money. If they know I have some, they’ll come up with an emergency in just that amount! </p><p></p><p>It’s hard to see our kids living below their abilities. My son is often unshowered, stinking of booze, unshaven, wearing dirty clothes. I’ve learned to accept him however he is when I see him. </p><p></p><p>Bless you for giving those kids a lovely day. They’ll remember that, even if there is little else you can do for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739235, member: 23349"] Tired, I am so sorry for all the drama your son is putting you through. It’s always drama, isn’t it? I’m glad you’ve learned how to detach when you need to. I hear you on the financial side, too. My partner and I are far from wealthy, but we have family on both sides who think we’re made of money just because we’re living a stable existence in a comfortable home. With no understanding that being careful with our money, working hard, putting aside funds for emergencies, and doing our own maintenance and repairs is what allows us to live our comfortable life. People who don’t plan for the future for themselves think every spare dollar you have is available for their latest emergency. It’s hard to say no, especially when kids are involved. But if we don’t protect our own resources we’ll get pulled down to the same place they are in. I also end up helping probably more than I should - but I’m careful not to give more than I can afford. I’m also careful not to talk about our finances with anybody - they don’t need to know how much we have in the bank, how much my business is bringing in, or where we plan to spend our money. If they know I have some, they’ll come up with an emergency in just that amount! It’s hard to see our kids living below their abilities. My son is often unshowered, stinking of booze, unshaven, wearing dirty clothes. I’ve learned to accept him however he is when I see him. Bless you for giving those kids a lovely day. They’ll remember that, even if there is little else you can do for them. [/QUOTE]
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