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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 490117" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Nancy, </p><p>I am sorry I did not read this earlier. </p><p></p><p>Have to say I am so proud of your difficult child for getting back "on the beam"...her chairing a meeting/taking the program seriously again, is such a positive sign. </p><p>I know she has sure gone through some tough situations to overcome in the last several months. </p><p></p><p>I agree whole-heartedly with their being a hole in the hearts of the addict/alcoholic...something is missing. For me it was a no brainer...I had no dad, no brothers sisters, moved 10 times by the time I was in 9th grade (no stability) and no friends I kept along the way. I was a very very lonely youngster and my mom was only 17 when she had me...so she grew up while I grew up, sigh. </p><p>But for my difficult child sons...It baffled me. I couldn't understand what was missing, well, at least in oldest difficult child's case. </p><p></p><p>My young difficult child is full-fledged alcoholic. I can see alot of reasons for his demise. He doesn't have a close relationship with my husband, dad. He is the middle child to a brother that seemed to have it all going for him: quarterback for dad's football team, good grades, hard worker, etc. </p><p>Young difficult child is also the spitting image of my alcoholic bio dad that I didn't meet til I was 17. </p><p></p><p>There is no one to blame necessarily. I think it is truly awesome that you and husband are participating in your difficult child's recovery too. Someone told me at Al Anon once that I did not cause this family disease only helped to "facilitate" it. </p><p></p><p>As a side note...Isn't it amazing how intelligent, charming, good looking these addict/alcoholics are!? Also someone told me that at least 40% of alcoholics have been dxd Bipolar before...I found that interesting too. Don't know if that's statistically true or not.</p><p></p><p>Hope your difficult child daughter continues on with AA. There is alot of growth that can come from it all. And someday you may have a relationship with her far better than you ever could have imagined. </p><p>The tools are hers and she's in the right place. </p><p>You're doing a great job supporting her. </p><p></p><p>Hugs, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 490117, member: 3305"] Hi Nancy, I am sorry I did not read this earlier. Have to say I am so proud of your difficult child for getting back "on the beam"...her chairing a meeting/taking the program seriously again, is such a positive sign. I know she has sure gone through some tough situations to overcome in the last several months. I agree whole-heartedly with their being a hole in the hearts of the addict/alcoholic...something is missing. For me it was a no brainer...I had no dad, no brothers sisters, moved 10 times by the time I was in 9th grade (no stability) and no friends I kept along the way. I was a very very lonely youngster and my mom was only 17 when she had me...so she grew up while I grew up, sigh. But for my difficult child sons...It baffled me. I couldn't understand what was missing, well, at least in oldest difficult child's case. My young difficult child is full-fledged alcoholic. I can see alot of reasons for his demise. He doesn't have a close relationship with my husband, dad. He is the middle child to a brother that seemed to have it all going for him: quarterback for dad's football team, good grades, hard worker, etc. Young difficult child is also the spitting image of my alcoholic bio dad that I didn't meet til I was 17. There is no one to blame necessarily. I think it is truly awesome that you and husband are participating in your difficult child's recovery too. Someone told me at Al Anon once that I did not cause this family disease only helped to "facilitate" it. As a side note...Isn't it amazing how intelligent, charming, good looking these addict/alcoholics are!? Also someone told me that at least 40% of alcoholics have been dxd Bipolar before...I found that interesting too. Don't know if that's statistically true or not. Hope your difficult child daughter continues on with AA. There is alot of growth that can come from it all. And someday you may have a relationship with her far better than you ever could have imagined. The tools are hers and she's in the right place. You're doing a great job supporting her. Hugs, LMS [/QUOTE]
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