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<blockquote data-quote="skeeter" data-source="post: 411514" data-attributes="member: 439"><p>I, too, think you have to look at the "can someone live a functioning life" or "is this interfering in their life" definition.</p><p></p><p>My ex has an addictive personality (he's also ADD). In his case, it isn't alcohol or drugs, it's his latest obsession. It's been running (he did ultra marathon where he'd run more than 50 mile races, rack up way over 100 miles a week in training, needing new shoes on a monthly basis) It's been bicycling (at one time he had 5 bikes of different kinds for different riding styles). It's been guns (not only having the guns and shooting, but also reloading). From the kids, currently it's kayaking - he's got 10 of them. All of this from the outside seems "healthy" - I mean, someone that can do a 50 miler and keep up a 6 minute pace is healthy, right? But it's at the cost of everything else in his life - if someone is running 100 miles a week, there is a major part of his life that is missing. If someone is spending all that money on bikes or kayaks, there could be a problem.</p><p></p><p>My younger son can have these tendencies (he's also ADD and has the hyperfocus part of it), but he recognizes it and asks for help. It's one reason we have never purchased a gaming system - he knows he would spend huge amounts of time with it. Even though he now lives on his own, he still sets a kitchen timer when he has the TV or computer on so he doesn't waste hours.</p><p></p><p>So - to me - it's not the impliment of usage - but what the usage causes in everyday life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="skeeter, post: 411514, member: 439"] I, too, think you have to look at the "can someone live a functioning life" or "is this interfering in their life" definition. My ex has an addictive personality (he's also ADD). In his case, it isn't alcohol or drugs, it's his latest obsession. It's been running (he did ultra marathon where he'd run more than 50 mile races, rack up way over 100 miles a week in training, needing new shoes on a monthly basis) It's been bicycling (at one time he had 5 bikes of different kinds for different riding styles). It's been guns (not only having the guns and shooting, but also reloading). From the kids, currently it's kayaking - he's got 10 of them. All of this from the outside seems "healthy" - I mean, someone that can do a 50 miler and keep up a 6 minute pace is healthy, right? But it's at the cost of everything else in his life - if someone is running 100 miles a week, there is a major part of his life that is missing. If someone is spending all that money on bikes or kayaks, there could be a problem. My younger son can have these tendencies (he's also ADD and has the hyperfocus part of it), but he recognizes it and asks for help. It's one reason we have never purchased a gaming system - he knows he would spend huge amounts of time with it. Even though he now lives on his own, he still sets a kitchen timer when he has the TV or computer on so he doesn't waste hours. So - to me - it's not the impliment of usage - but what the usage causes in everyday life. [/QUOTE]
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