Sara, I loved your posts. What a caring mom you are! I was thinking that he's probably in the living room because he's afraid to be alone. I don't know about the verbal abuse. I also feel this young man probably couldn't make it on his own, which is why I suggested getting social services involved. My daughter was very capable of living on her own and had always had a job--in spite of her drug use. This really IS different. Sara, I think you and I are pretty much on the same page as far as the police. The only time I ever called the police was when my daughter pulled a knife on herself...and I hadn't really WANTED the police. I called 9-1-1 and asked for an ambulance, but they sent the cops. I'm really not a big fan of sending a minor child who has mental health or neurological issues to juvy hall as I don't think it helps one iota. But, hey, I've been accused of being too passive and soft...I never spanked either.
I have new respect for you and your gallant struggle with your son...lol. Thanks for posting here--I think you are a wise and brave woman with a wise and brave son.
Note to others: Not all adult children will make it because they are forced to do it. Some are too disabled to live alone, even as adults. It's not pleasant to think about, but there are some kids who will get hastily married (like me) or go to jail just to have a roof over their head and a meal. I think when you decide to kick a child out of the house you really do have to make it a very individual decision, and Sara's posts brought me back to earth (I tend to think about my daughter who DID make it). Sometimes, in my opinion, it's best to make sure social services has an eye on your child and a possible placement before saying he can't live at home anymore. Of course, if ANY young adult is a serious physical threat to others...sadly that plan can't always be put into place...I would have no advice under those circumstances.
