Mothers here say good things about each of these groups. They sometimes say to try a few different groups because each has its own personality.
I am glad you had a good day and that your day affirmed your decisions.
I feel like a hypocrite.
We have been holding my son's feet to the fire. I have backed off and my SO is handling him alone. My health cannot deal with it.
Well. We hit a wall this month when he was unable to pay rent, (to us) having one excuse after another, which all boils down to marijuana. I swore "no marijuana subsidy." M, my SO, backed down. And here we are. He cannot bear my son homeless, nor can I, if the truth be hold. I stood it for more than 4 years. I seem unable to stand more.
Hypocrite. I am.
My son has a life-threatening illness. As one way to comply with our pressure to do constructive things he restarted a couple of weeks ago the medication he needs. He had stopped for 6 years! And stopping it--is dangerous. It is way worse starting it and stopping, then not taking it at all. He has stopped and started 3 times that I know about.
I feel sick at heart. There is nothing we can do. Kicking him out does not work. Supporting him by applying pressure does not work. If I kick him out It will kill me this time. I feel that. I cannot bear anymore the fear of his illness. I just can't.
I will have to sacrifice him--by that I mean--let him stay in our other house, without terms, or the terms he imposes--because I cannot stand the idea of his stopping the medication based upon some action I have taken.
I am sorry to hijack your thread but I am desperate to find some direction. A place to stand. And I am horrified at myself that this is where I am ending up: I am ready to completely fold.
Except I have told myself: if this is to be, I do not want to see him or speak to him. Let him continue his lifestyle with me out of it. He could stay where he is, without contact.
I do not know yet, what he will come up with but M is not hopeful. To put it more clearly, he is despairing. He sees now, that we have no control. You cannot help somebody to be what they do not want to be.
