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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 653252" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Hi LMS. Someone posted an article once that basically said that unconditional love does not mean unconditional access. I really liked that. You can love your child but still refuse to let them mistreat you by limiting access. </p><p></p><p>Set strong boundaries and tell you sons (yes, both of them are not treating you well just in different ways) that you will refuse them access to you until they show you that they will show you the respect you deserve. Then let the boundaries down just a little at a time if they treat you well. Eventually they can earn back full access but it should on your terms. You could start by saying that you will only talk with them on the phone once a week and will hang up if they are in any way rude or disrespectful to you.</p><p></p><p>That is what I am doing with my daughter. Every time that I think she is doing well and think about reinstating limited contact she says something crazy to husband and then I realize that it is not time yet. </p><p></p><p>{{{Hugs}}}</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 653252, member: 1967"] Hi LMS. Someone posted an article once that basically said that unconditional love does not mean unconditional access. I really liked that. You can love your child but still refuse to let them mistreat you by limiting access. Set strong boundaries and tell you sons (yes, both of them are not treating you well just in different ways) that you will refuse them access to you until they show you that they will show you the respect you deserve. Then let the boundaries down just a little at a time if they treat you well. Eventually they can earn back full access but it should on your terms. You could start by saying that you will only talk with them on the phone once a week and will hang up if they are in any way rude or disrespectful to you. That is what I am doing with my daughter. Every time that I think she is doing well and think about reinstating limited contact she says something crazy to husband and then I realize that it is not time yet. {{{Hugs}}} ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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