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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 762922" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hello and welcome</p><p></p><p>It may be hard to believe but almost all of us here are dealing with some version of heartbreak and our inability to deal with it. We are all of us in the process of learning to live productive and contented lives in spite of our children's inability or unwillingness to do so.</p><p></p><p>Most parents come here and they post a few times, or maybe several months, and they leave. Perhaps their problems have been remediated. Perhaps they do not find here, what they seek. But there is a hardcore group of us that are here week in, week out for years and years. Some of us dedicate ourselves here, even though our child has improved. Others of us have experienced a long, long decline.</p><p></p><p>But even so, there is a way to get your life back. And more than this. To deal with something so awful and so painful, we have to change. Our own vulnerabilities and blindspots about our lives may have been tolerable when life was going well. When all Hell has broken loose and it stays that way we must go deep to find meaning and purpose and search for and heal painful parts of ourselves and our lives, that are revealed by our suffering.</p><p></p><p>I urge you to see this disappointment and pain as it reveals itself to you, in you. What I did not know many years ago was that the barriers to change were in me. My son deserves his own life. He deserves to fail and to flail in his own life, so that he may have the opportunity to learn and change. Your daughter does too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 762922, member: 18958"] Hello and welcome It may be hard to believe but almost all of us here are dealing with some version of heartbreak and our inability to deal with it. We are all of us in the process of learning to live productive and contented lives in spite of our children's inability or unwillingness to do so. Most parents come here and they post a few times, or maybe several months, and they leave. Perhaps their problems have been remediated. Perhaps they do not find here, what they seek. But there is a hardcore group of us that are here week in, week out for years and years. Some of us dedicate ourselves here, even though our child has improved. Others of us have experienced a long, long decline. But even so, there is a way to get your life back. And more than this. To deal with something so awful and so painful, we have to change. Our own vulnerabilities and blindspots about our lives may have been tolerable when life was going well. When all Hell has broken loose and it stays that way we must go deep to find meaning and purpose and search for and heal painful parts of ourselves and our lives, that are revealed by our suffering. I urge you to see this disappointment and pain as it reveals itself to you, in you. What I did not know many years ago was that the barriers to change were in me. My son deserves his own life. He deserves to fail and to flail in his own life, so that he may have the opportunity to learn and change. Your daughter does too. [/QUOTE]
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