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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 47426" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>The only thing I really feel guilty about is what I feel I allowed difficult child to do to easy child. She still holds a lot of resentment and sometimes when she comes out with things I begin to stick up for difficult child, because he's doing so well not, but I have to remember she has a right to her feelings and she needs to deal with them in her own way.</p><p></p><p>Here was a 15 year old at the time he was still living home, going to school like she was supposed too, babysitting and being more responsible then any 15 year old I knew, and he was stealing from her left and right. She would babysit, leave her money in her room, get in the shower the next morning and go back to her room to find her money missing. I was so wrapped up in difficult child at the time, that it wasnt' my biggest concern. I never saw him do it, of course he would deny it and make me wonder if she misplaced the money and I would end up paying her back. I think that always made her more angry then anything, that I would pay her back and it would cost me yet again!! </p><p></p><p>She is 17 now and the other day I was telling her about how he owed one of his roomates in the soberhouse money and the day after he paid him the kid relapsed. difficult child was so mad that he lost that money to someone who went out and spent it on drugs and my easy child's reaction was "good, now he knows what it feels like". He hasn't lived here in almost 2 years and hasn't stolen from her in almost 2 years, and I was surprised to see how much it still effects her. </p><p></p><p>I don't feel anything I did, or didn't do, as a parent made my son a drug addict, but I do wish I had learned to protect my easy child daughter from him sooner then I did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 47426, member: 2442"] The only thing I really feel guilty about is what I feel I allowed difficult child to do to easy child. She still holds a lot of resentment and sometimes when she comes out with things I begin to stick up for difficult child, because he's doing so well not, but I have to remember she has a right to her feelings and she needs to deal with them in her own way. Here was a 15 year old at the time he was still living home, going to school like she was supposed too, babysitting and being more responsible then any 15 year old I knew, and he was stealing from her left and right. She would babysit, leave her money in her room, get in the shower the next morning and go back to her room to find her money missing. I was so wrapped up in difficult child at the time, that it wasnt' my biggest concern. I never saw him do it, of course he would deny it and make me wonder if she misplaced the money and I would end up paying her back. I think that always made her more angry then anything, that I would pay her back and it would cost me yet again!! She is 17 now and the other day I was telling her about how he owed one of his roomates in the soberhouse money and the day after he paid him the kid relapsed. difficult child was so mad that he lost that money to someone who went out and spent it on drugs and my easy child's reaction was "good, now he knows what it feels like". He hasn't lived here in almost 2 years and hasn't stolen from her in almost 2 years, and I was surprised to see how much it still effects her. I don't feel anything I did, or didn't do, as a parent made my son a drug addict, but I do wish I had learned to protect my easy child daughter from him sooner then I did. [/QUOTE]
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