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She is so consistent in her inconsistency!
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 131379" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Wish I could tell you it gets better... wait a minute, I actually did take thank you to pick up rx's last night and ... it *does* get better!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I don't think he asked me for a thing. Weeburt and Diva were another story, but last night in the drug store, thank you looked like a easy child! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Holy cow, lightbulb moment.</p><p> </p><p>At age 9, I didn't take thank you anywhere other than psychiatrist and therapist. Didn't matter if I went to the gas station for gas, the bank, wherever... there would always be something that he wanted that he wasn't going to get that would trigger a meltdown and generalized chaos. "The Explosive Child" defines that as the optimist in our kids - they just *know* someday they'll get their way. Could take years but once they *do*, it's reinforcing that tantruming all over again. </p><p> </p><p>thank you's relatively rare stable periods always left me off balance. Most of the time I knew what to expect - exactly as you put it, the roller coaster. On those rare times when he chilled out for more than a couple of days, I was a nervous wreck, LOL. </p><p> </p><p>I never kept a journal of meltdowns but I'm a disorganized wimp - had I been able to find pen and paper, I'm pretty sure I would have just been too glad to have survived another round and would not have had the emotional strength to document. I think it would've been helpful, so kudos to you for doing it.</p><p> </p><p>I do agree with avoiding the word "no". I actually do this with all my kids now. If we're going out, I state up front that I will not be buying anything but X, Y, Z, so don't ask. If they want something that would be a "no" answer at home, I offer alternatives if possible, or "later" or for thank you a more concrete "at 4:30". Of course, I have to be on top of it at 4:30, but... avoiding "no" really does seem to help.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 131379, member: 8"] Wish I could tell you it gets better... wait a minute, I actually did take thank you to pick up rx's last night and ... it *does* get better!!! ;) I don't think he asked me for a thing. Weeburt and Diva were another story, but last night in the drug store, thank you looked like a easy child! ;) Holy cow, lightbulb moment. At age 9, I didn't take thank you anywhere other than psychiatrist and therapist. Didn't matter if I went to the gas station for gas, the bank, wherever... there would always be something that he wanted that he wasn't going to get that would trigger a meltdown and generalized chaos. "The Explosive Child" defines that as the optimist in our kids - they just *know* someday they'll get their way. Could take years but once they *do*, it's reinforcing that tantruming all over again. thank you's relatively rare stable periods always left me off balance. Most of the time I knew what to expect - exactly as you put it, the roller coaster. On those rare times when he chilled out for more than a couple of days, I was a nervous wreck, LOL. I never kept a journal of meltdowns but I'm a disorganized wimp - had I been able to find pen and paper, I'm pretty sure I would have just been too glad to have survived another round and would not have had the emotional strength to document. I think it would've been helpful, so kudos to you for doing it. I do agree with avoiding the word "no". I actually do this with all my kids now. If we're going out, I state up front that I will not be buying anything but X, Y, Z, so don't ask. If they want something that would be a "no" answer at home, I offer alternatives if possible, or "later" or for thank you a more concrete "at 4:30". Of course, I have to be on top of it at 4:30, but... avoiding "no" really does seem to help. Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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