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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 462416"><p>I know a family (have mentioned it before) where the parents are not difficult children and are well educated. The interesting thing (in my book) is that they don't always learn from their mistakes though...a clear difficult child trait. But nevertheless, they have gone to college, work hard at challenging/responsible jobs and are kind/good people.</p><p>Sadly, they have two difficult child children. These children have children (grandkids).</p><p>Mom and Dad have adopted one of the children (a difficult child) and for the most part (75% financially if I had to guess) taking care of the rest. There are probably five kids in total. Fortunately, both Mom and Dad have high paying jobs/careers. However, even with that in their favor, money is often VERY tight, they are often exhausted to the bone and often fighting depression. </p><p></p><p>At my house, we are going through something right now with difficult child "losing" her phone left and right. Many of her phones have been destroyed, given away or sold. She's also out of food. Similar problem. So, I can relate to much of what Nancy has said. She does this repeatedly and no incentive we have tried, including going without a cell phone or hungry, has helped with reference to getting her to stop doing this or for her to plan her eating for the week.</p><p></p><p>There does not seem to be any cause and effect reasoning with difficult children and there are times that it seems not only very frustrating, but dangerous and even tragic. It is particularly alarming when we are talking about another human life.</p><p></p><p>But....I say enough is enough. We can provide some LIMITED help if and only if it doesn't hurt us. Steer them to social services.We've done our jobs. Now, we have an obligation to ourselves, our spouses, our other adult children and even our community.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 462416"] I know a family (have mentioned it before) where the parents are not difficult children and are well educated. The interesting thing (in my book) is that they don't always learn from their mistakes though...a clear difficult child trait. But nevertheless, they have gone to college, work hard at challenging/responsible jobs and are kind/good people. Sadly, they have two difficult child children. These children have children (grandkids). Mom and Dad have adopted one of the children (a difficult child) and for the most part (75% financially if I had to guess) taking care of the rest. There are probably five kids in total. Fortunately, both Mom and Dad have high paying jobs/careers. However, even with that in their favor, money is often VERY tight, they are often exhausted to the bone and often fighting depression. At my house, we are going through something right now with difficult child "losing" her phone left and right. Many of her phones have been destroyed, given away or sold. She's also out of food. Similar problem. So, I can relate to much of what Nancy has said. She does this repeatedly and no incentive we have tried, including going without a cell phone or hungry, has helped with reference to getting her to stop doing this or for her to plan her eating for the week. There does not seem to be any cause and effect reasoning with difficult children and there are times that it seems not only very frustrating, but dangerous and even tragic. It is particularly alarming when we are talking about another human life. But....I say enough is enough. We can provide some LIMITED help if and only if it doesn't hurt us. Steer them to social services.We've done our jobs. Now, we have an obligation to ourselves, our spouses, our other adult children and even our community. [/QUOTE]
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