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Should I get 18 year old out of jail?
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<blockquote data-quote="New Life" data-source="post: 764994" data-attributes="member: 33213"><p>Thank you all. </p><p></p><p>I have been attending Al-Anon for some time. It helps but i need to work the steps with a sponsor still. </p><p></p><p>When my son was first arrested for the felony he sat for about 100 days in jail. His 10% bond was $10k. I didn’t pay for that or a lawyer. Now he’s on deferred probation for four years. </p><p></p><p>The shoplifting along with not telling his PO about that and other police contact is why he’s back in jail (without bond) for probation violation. His court date isn't for two months (unless we get a paid lawyer). He’s also wrecked a car and once fixed wrecked it again driving drunk. That was my tipping point to not get the lawyer. He claims he just messed up and that I don’t see the progress he’s made. </p><p></p><p>All things considered he has been doing a lot better than years past. The level of craziness has been dialed way down. Life has been ok around the home. He has(had) a job. But as this last PO visit drew near, when he knew he was being arrested, he started drinking. He does need to learn that is not a coping mechanism. And that his decisions have consequences. If he weren’t on probation I’m sure it would be much worse too. </p><p></p><p>The desire to save and rescue is hard to not follow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Life, post: 764994, member: 33213"] Thank you all. I have been attending Al-Anon for some time. It helps but i need to work the steps with a sponsor still. When my son was first arrested for the felony he sat for about 100 days in jail. His 10% bond was $10k. I didn’t pay for that or a lawyer. Now he’s on deferred probation for four years. The shoplifting along with not telling his PO about that and other police contact is why he’s back in jail (without bond) for probation violation. His court date isn't for two months (unless we get a paid lawyer). He’s also wrecked a car and once fixed wrecked it again driving drunk. That was my tipping point to not get the lawyer. He claims he just messed up and that I don’t see the progress he’s made. All things considered he has been doing a lot better than years past. The level of craziness has been dialed way down. Life has been ok around the home. He has(had) a job. But as this last PO visit drew near, when he knew he was being arrested, he started drinking. He does need to learn that is not a coping mechanism. And that his decisions have consequences. If he weren’t on probation I’m sure it would be much worse too. The desire to save and rescue is hard to not follow. [/QUOTE]
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