Congratulations on the sale of your home! 
This is such an important step to you gaining a solid future for yourself. You are NOT the very worst Mom, in fact just the opposite. Your taking control and putting focus on you for once in his life which in turn by letting them make decisions on their own could be the turning point in their lives???! We don’t know what the future holds but we do know that we must stop what has not worked in the past. Such a difficult step as we just want to run in and save the day but, we know the cycle of manipulating - using us for a place to stay or money - to use us as verbal punching bags and often physical abuse as well. I liken it to an alcoholic, if not the one abusing alcohol as my father did, someone in the family has to stop this cycle or it will continue for generations to come.
Now get to unpacking, nope….put the family albums in a drawer and hide the key….for now. 
